If your girlfriend of 5 years were $5,500 in credit card debt.
06-07-2013, 12:11 PM
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06-07-2013, 12:54 PM
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Originally Posted by bluemetals2k' timestamp='1370553283' post='22591654
We lived together 4 outa the 5 years. She moved 45 minutes out/away to be closer to her full time job, horse, and teaching lessons. We got along well enough although I do love my quiet time lol.
problem solved!
06-10-2013, 04:06 PM
#17
I will go against the sound advice of others and say hell no. No $cha-ching$ without the wedding ring. I guess I am getting cynical. Are you guys truly committed long term? Nursing school could be stressful for her, in addition to being costly. The 5 grand could pale in comparison to what you inherit getting hitched down the road. You are taking her in to help out- good of you. Where did this debt come from? Supporting a child or medical bills or some unfortunate circumstance? Or was it shoes and designer labels?
06-11-2013, 11:10 PM
#18
I will go against the sound advice of others and say hell no. No $cha-ching$ without the wedding ring. I guess I am getting cynical. Are you guys truly committed long term? Nursing school could be stressful for her, in addition to being costly. The 5 grand could pale in comparison to what you inherit getting hitched down the road. You are taking her in to help out- good of you. Where did this debt come from? Supporting a child or medical bills or some unfortunate circumstance? Or was it shoes and designer labels?
I can't help to be cynical after seeing other buddies going to ugly divorce and some for the 2nd time around. Without being too selfish, have a back up plan for yourself so you don't get "check-mate". Don't ask me how I feel about wedding rings.
06-11-2013, 11:42 PM
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+1 on that. My dental school buddy who seemed like the role model husband and daddy at the time is now going through divorce. Ex is sueing the crap out of him since she help put him through school while raising their kids. His reason for divorce is that he now finds "nothing in common" with her because she is not "educated."
I can't help to be cynical after seeing other buddies going to ugly divorce and some for the 2nd time around. Without being too selfish, have a back up plan for yourself so you don't get "check-mate". Don't ask me how I feel about wedding rings.
I can't help to be cynical after seeing other buddies going to ugly divorce and some for the 2nd time around. Without being too selfish, have a back up plan for yourself so you don't get "check-mate". Don't ask me how I feel about wedding rings.
If you plan on being with her long term, I'd go with clio's advice.
06-12-2013, 06:42 AM
#20
She accumulated the debt while transitioning between jobs a few years ago using her credit cards for food, bills, horse ezpenses etc. She got word back from the nursing college shes attending and shell be getting 18k + a year between federal loans and grants etc. She has decided to not take my money right now and use the left over money from school to pay the debt off along with her teaching lessons.