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Originally Posted by racer chick' date='Feb 10 2005, 05:09 PM
it has nothing to do with security or insecurity.
actually NOT playing games is because of insecurity. when a girl is insecure, she chases after men, calls them all the time, makes all the effort in hopes of getting him to like her and igniting some sort of flame... what ends up happening? he gets turned off by her and dumps her. if he does choose to go ahead and give it a shot, no matter how far down the line, a week, two, a couple months, maybe even a couple years into hte relationship, he ends up dumping her. know why? cuz she out of insecurity pursued him, instead of playing her game right and letting HIM pursue HER. he never wanted her from the beginning, she was just convenient cuz she was always in his face..
if a girl plays her game right, she will never be in a situation where she is getting hurtfully dumped over and over and over again.... rather, if he pursues her, he will always adore her because he had to WORK HARD to get her... no matter what anyone says, MAN pursues WOMAN, by nature men are hte aggressors... and if a man isn't man enough to BE the aggressor, then what the heck would ya want with him anyways??? you gonna fight his fights for him when you're married? you gonna wear the pants forever?
i didnt' think so...
this is the game. like it or not.
actually NOT playing games is because of insecurity. when a girl is insecure, she chases after men, calls them all the time, makes all the effort in hopes of getting him to like her and igniting some sort of flame... what ends up happening? he gets turned off by her and dumps her. if he does choose to go ahead and give it a shot, no matter how far down the line, a week, two, a couple months, maybe even a couple years into hte relationship, he ends up dumping her. know why? cuz she out of insecurity pursued him, instead of playing her game right and letting HIM pursue HER. he never wanted her from the beginning, she was just convenient cuz she was always in his face..
if a girl plays her game right, she will never be in a situation where she is getting hurtfully dumped over and over and over again.... rather, if he pursues her, he will always adore her because he had to WORK HARD to get her... no matter what anyone says, MAN pursues WOMAN, by nature men are hte aggressors... and if a man isn't man enough to BE the aggressor, then what the heck would ya want with him anyways??? you gonna fight his fights for him when you're married? you gonna wear the pants forever?
i didnt' think so...
this is the game. like it or not.
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That is ridiculous to say a relationship would fail solely because the woman was the aggressor... I don't think it has anything to do with who chases who.. its about the emotional bond between the two. I'm not gonna chase after some girl if she just sits around and doesn't contribute shit to it.
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Originally Posted by Dark_Sub_Rosa' date='Feb 10 2005, 02:44 PM
That is ridiculous to say a relationship would fail solely because the woman was the aggressor... I don't think it has anything to do with who chases who.. its about the emotional bond between the two. I'm not gonna chase after some girl if she just sits around and doesn't contribute shit to it.
i wish you both the best of luck in ur relationships.
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I wish you luck too Maryann.. I just can't agree with the double standard of its ok for a girl to sit around and the guy chase her.. yet the girl can't chase the guy...
Speaking from a guy's standpoint.. It gets old putting a lot into girls only to have it fall to shit. Why do you think so many guys get bitter about women and dating.. prolly because they have chased so many with little results... or the women love to be chased but once they actaully get the guy they let him go only to see if they could get him to chase her and etc....
Speaking from a guy's standpoint.. It gets old putting a lot into girls only to have it fall to shit. Why do you think so many guys get bitter about women and dating.. prolly because they have chased so many with little results... or the women love to be chased but once they actaully get the guy they let him go only to see if they could get him to chase her and etc....
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[quote name='AZWILDCATS' date='Feb 10 2005, 02:37 PM'] Well, I beg to differ. That may have been true several decades ago, but the roles for women have changed. There is no denying that. Women are expected to be many more things now. We are expected to be strong, sexy, nurturing, sensual, financially savvy, thin, career minded, independent, big breasted, not too independent, fashion oriented, intellectual goddesses. Being an aggressive and assertive woman can be sexy but frightening to some of the younger lads. On top of it all there is the ever-present inundation of magazines, television shows and books spewing propaganda as to what makes up a woman today and how she should look. What with all of the talk of plastic surgery, Botox injections and cellulite reduction remedies, it
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Originally Posted by Dark_Sub_Rosa' date='Feb 10 2005, 02:50 PM
I wish you luck too Maryann.. I just can't agree with the double standard of its ok for a girl to sit around and the guy chase her.. yet the girl can't chase the guy...
Speaking from a guy's standpoint.. It gets old putting a lot into girls only to have it fall to shit. Why do you think so many guys get bitter about women and dating.. prolly because they have chased so many with little results... or the women love to be chased but once they actaully get the guy they let him go only to see if they could get him to chase her and etc....
Speaking from a guy's standpoint.. It gets old putting a lot into girls only to have it fall to shit. Why do you think so many guys get bitter about women and dating.. prolly because they have chased so many with little results... or the women love to be chased but once they actaully get the guy they let him go only to see if they could get him to chase her and etc....
and as a guy, pursuing a girl in moderation is what will get you the jackpot.
if a guy is constantly calling a girl, and is always in her face, yeah she's gonna get sick of you and dump you.
as i said before, moderation, moderation, moderation...
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Originally Posted by racer chick' date='Feb 10 2005, 05:47 PM
i wish you both the best of luck with ur relationships...
and i never said anything about looks... we were talking about relationships
and i never said anything about looks... we were talking about relationships
There is also the flip side as well... Adding to all this confusion is the fact that some men really have no idea what their role is anymore. I mean rarely are they sole bread-winner, rarely are they the head-of-the-house, etc. Women no longer require men to pull out their chair, open their car door, take their coats, etc. (Granted in my opinion, it is very very sweet and sexy)