I have been a member of your website for 2 years now and have been matched with almost a hundred people. Nothing seems to work. I read the profiles and often find a problem - poor grammar or a reply that I don't approve of. I receive lots of matches in my geographic area, but none seem to measure up. I am interested in men with professional jobs, preferably a doctor or attorney.

Most all of the men I have been matched with were in their late 40's and I am 44. I am only willing to accept a gentleman within the 42-46 age range. Some of my matches have been teachers, business people, and one was a baseball coach - not the professional men that I desire.

I have dreamed about finding a mate since my early 20's. I have read many, many books on the subject. But, I can't bring myself to compromise and settle for something less than I deserve.

I just really wanted to ask you: what is wrong with me? What happenned? What am I not doing? Should I move? I just don't understand why it seems to be impossible for me to meet someone who "fits" me and who I "fit" as well.

Thanks for listening

-MaryAnn


Dear MaryAnn,

Thanks for your letter. You've asked me a great many questions which can all be summarized into one - "Am I being too picky?". I am fond of telling singles that you can't be too picky. But in your case, I may have to make an exception.