[QUOTE]Originally posted by brantshali
[B]Someday we'll see.

 

I know what you mean...

 

Ive only had that with one person and nothing could ever compare to it....until i fall in love again I suppose

 

I love sex

 

Quick thought on this whole concept of being hurt and never getting back into relationships. There are two ways to live your life in my opinion:

1.) "Closed & Bitter"- You have been hurt before and are so obsessive about not being hurt again by someone that you hurt yourself by keeping everyone away. Not only do these people complain all the time about being hurt, and how they are the victim, but they also make so that it is almost impossible for anyone to get close enough to them to like the good qualities that they most likely posess. Typically negativist attitude that really gets you nowhere fast, and frankly makes people not want to talk to you very much. While it is a very safe and protective way to be, it is also a recipe for loneliness.

2.) "Open & Hopeful"- You have been hurt before but refuse to let it sour your outlook on life and love. Rather than thinking you are a victim all the time, you are generally more positive and open to the possibilities of loving someone again. While it is dangerous and can result in being hurt again, it offers an opportunity to be genuinely happy that you believe outweighs the pain. Being too open can be dangerous, but common sense, and being a good judge of character helps to miminize the dangers and brings out more joy.


I know that I for one enjoy being open to being happy. I have been hurt. Hurt badly a couple of times. But there is no way that I will let past pain impair me from being happy today and tomorrow. It is a mental decision that one makes for themself to be positive and be hopeful. Because, think about it, who wants to be with someone that brings you down by being depressed and negative all the time? Not me.

 

I'm about to get out of a 2 and a half year relationship. We're both so young, but I think we found love despite our age. I'm really nervous, sad, and scared...3 days, when I move to California from Maryland. Not only am I upset about the loss, but I don't even remember what its like to be single.

Any advice?

This seems pretty good to me:
But how do you just move on? This is my first love and basically my first girlfriend, we started dating freshman year (14) and now going into senior year, we have to break up

~Andrew

edit: OoOo corner

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by north9586
[B]I'm about to get out of a 2 and a half year relationship. We're both so young, but I think we found love despite our age. I'm really nervous, sad, and scared...3 days, when I move to California from Maryland. Not only am I upset about the loss, but I don't even remember what its like to be single.

Any advice?

This seems pretty good to me:

 

I am proud to say I have moved on from a relationship I thought was going to last a lifetime. Being engaged was a great thing since I was in total euphoria with him! It was a relationship destined for disaster from the beginning, now that I look back on it. I have to say that I held on for awhile, and so did he. It was hard to throw away something that we held so special to us.

Since then, I realized who I am and what I truly want to accomplish in life. I needed the time to learn about myself and my life in general. I mean, Im only 20. My mom was married at my age and had me when she was 21. I know she wonders sometimes, especially in more harder times, how different her life wouldve been if she had waited and gone off to fulfill her goals. I dont want to have to wonder. I wanna know. And when I am ready, and fate feels the time is right, I will find the person who will be by my side for it and bring out the best in me.

I have moved on to bigger and better things since November when we broke up and Im happy with myself and my life. I feel more positive and accomplished and more confident that the people I choose to have surrounding me are the right people to have

 

geezus. i leave this thread for a few pages and now its cluttered with words.

 

3 lines per post!!! whore rules. I refuse to read those long posts.... windbags!