Hey wicksters! Yea, well, I had to wake up at 5:30 a.m. to get some work done to my winter car cuz it's gonna be snowing soon, and then I decided to lay down to take a nap around 9:30 tonight and just woke up.

How are you doing?

 

I'm good. I just got home from seeing some improv performance. Acting comedy thing. Not standup, sort of like ...... who's line is it?, I think thats the name. It was damn funny. I have some friends who are in the class there and they want me to join, but I'm so freakishly shy! But I think I'm gonna give it a try at the end of the month Otherwise it was a long day but alls well that ends well How are you?

 

Shy?! Really?! Sounds like fun!

So are you coming to my party in April? I see you're coming to Jimmy-con! I'll be there - with bells on.

Yea, I'm doing pretty good, a little stressed due to men, but I think I have most things figured out finally...a little stressed cuz I'm closing on my condo on January 27th and tax season is coming up so I'm gonna be working my booty off.

 

I hope it'll be fun, I can be a nut, but I can also be shy as hell. I'm terrified

I didn't know about your party -- is there a thread on it? I'm gonna see how LennyCon goes, I might become a jetsetter I'm looking at round trip to LennyCon for about 200 bucks. Seems pretty decent to me, and I can swing it so yeah, april might be doable, as long as I'm not getting slammed with work.

Men. Shit. Well, i have several friends who are girls, I just talk to girls easier then men. And they have a lot of interesting insight into how men operate, Very interesting stuff, and for the most part, accurate. Hope that goes well, the opposite sex is most troublesome but so worth it

what do you do for work? I don't remember if I know this. Hope the condo thing goes well, that is great your getting into it and at a young age too.

 

What're you terrified of? LOL...

Just bumped the thread for you...Yea, 200 bucks isn't bad at all!

Men are so confusing sometimes. Like the one guy: He tells me he's not ready to be committed because he has a lot going on, so I tell him to take care of that stuff and that I'm not going to sit around and wait because I have a lot of stuff going on too. Now tell me this, someone who wasn't ready to be committed, would he invite me out on a double date with his buddy and his girlfriend? Well, he did, but I'm just going to let things happen. I told him that if he keeps telling himself he's not ready to commit, then he will never be. Right?

I'm an accountant, so starting Monday, I'll be working ~50 hours a week til April 15th. Luckily I don't start Saturdays til the week after JimmyCon! Thanks, I'm excited about the condo, I'm just SICK of paying rent, and I've been waiting almost a year now...These stupid places take forever to be built!

 

that is awesome I know accounting may not be glamourous, but you seem to have your shit together, and thats key.

Jill, you're on the right track with men. In general, I'd say, not ready to commit, could be translated as, not ready to be responsible. As in, not ready to be (whatever you need him to be). In essence he's telling you the truth, he wants to be casual, but he doesn't want you to slip away either.

I think guys are more willing than girls (in whatever sense you want to take that) and so if the girl is willlling, its damn likely the guy will be. So for men, it harder to find women. You know its easy to find guys, because you just take your pick, and 9 out of 10 are set to go.

The other thing is..... this may be strange, but I don't really listen to WORDS, because people say a lot of stuff, but look at a cat or a dog, and you can figure them out pretty easily. Look at a human, strip away the "talk" and you have basically the same thing.

I have a theory men need women, more than women need men, but I haven't figured out why yet.... I just see it in their behavior, at work, in the bar, wherever......

sorry if I got a little eccentric....

 

Yea, accounting isn't too bad. My firm is pretty relaxed the rest of the year, and I'm learning a LOT, so I enjoy my job for the most part.

See, I look at his actions and they totally tell me that he wants to commit to me. He's always talking about how he misses me, how he has so much fun with me, and I recently spent the night over there and he said that was the best nights sleep he's gotten in a while because I was with him. Corny, maybe, but he really means it. He's such a sweet guy, but he just has a lot going on. He told me when we first started talking that he wanted to take things slow, and I'm cool with that, but when I go from seeing him once every two weeks, to once every couple days, that changes things...

 

that makes sense. He feels what he feels. Right now. It might change tomorrow, or next year, or never. There are no guarantees in life, and the best thing is to meet that challenge head on. If you can hang with the ambiguity, then you're set, if not, then protect yourself. As long as you know yourself and what you need, you'll be set to handle whatever comes next, good or bad.

 

Thanks wicksters! That's why I sorta backed off of him and told him that we should go our separate ways, but then he said that he retracted his statement about not being ready to commit (since I told him if he keeps telling himself that then he never will be). After that is when he asked if his friend/friends girlfriend/he and i could all go out to dinner together...

Thanks for listening. You're awesome.

 

well, awesome is a strong word, I'm just giving my slant.

It seems like you have a good handle on it and are watching out for yourself. It's never easy, but you'll do fine. I share these things about men, because I'm learning them about myself. I think 99.9% of men don't even know how they come across to women.... they *think* they know, but women are smart creatures.....