So the title kind of sums it up, but I think I made a big mistake. Let me give a little background first:

I moved to this city 5 months ago, decided to get a roommate in my condo since I really didn't know anyone in town. Picked this ugly French (Canadian) girl to move in and decided after 3 months that I wanted her out. My plan of living with an ugly girl didn't work as planned because, although I had no desire to sleep with her, I was totally disgusted by everything she did. She was a slob.

So in the time that I've been living here I got to know a bunch of people. I even met someone I went to high school with and became really good friends now with several people I met through her. One of them is this girl who grew up about about 2 hours from where I did and now we happen to live across the country. Great girl, wasn't single, really easy to get along with and she asked me if I needed a roommate anytime soon to let her know because she wanted to move downtown where I live.

So as of last weekend she moved in to my place and broke the news to me that her bf of 2 years (I know him too) is out of the picture because of marriage/kids/life priorities differences. Uh oh, now I've got beautiful awesome girl living at my house and she's single. DOH! So about a day into her moving in I found out from another friend that when I missed her birthday because I was out of town the weekend previous (attending my grandmother's funeral) she got drunk and was making out with this guy she works with. She's moving on quickly!

Anyway, point is that she was single for less than a week before showing interest in some other guy and now that we live together I have been seeing a lot of her and I am damn near in love with this girl. I thought before that once we were in close quarters that I'd see all the stuff that would drive me nuts but there just isn't any! Problem is that I think I am now TOO close to her to even cross that line. Shot myself in the foot.

Anybody had a situation where they had a serious roommate attraction thing going on? I'm talking about, I could marry this girl and father her children. I need advice! I can't tell anyone because my closest friends are her friends too.

 

I say go for it. If she's the one, then it's worth the risk. If she's not, and you don't do anything, down the road, at most you'd just be friends anyway, which is nice, but as you get older, many friendships naturally diverge anyway (distance, personality changes, lack of time, etc).

 

Give it a shot. if it doesn't work oh well. Life goes on.

 

I am tempted to go for it, and but my intention was to kind of get to know each other and grow over time instead of being forced to do something after she just got out of a 2+ year relationship. Then douchebag showed up and snaked me!

This other guy looks a lot like me but he's a got a much dryer personality. I'm inclined to think that she was interested in him just because of the whole rebound thing, so I'm crossing my fingers that it won't go anywhere. Think that's likely? I don't know of any rebound relationships that have lasted more than 6 months-1year.

 

damn, best of luck to you. hopefully things will turn out better for you

 

well most likely the "douchebag" will be used as a rebound. You might have a much better chance than him

 

I'm crossing my fingers on that one :-)

I was hoping to hear someone else say that so I wasn't thinking I'm being naive about the situation.

In all honesty I'm happy with being single indefinitely till I meet the right girl, but the first time I met this one I told my buddy we'd end up married and he laughed and thought I was joking so I played it off. Whatever, I dunno how I stooped to using s2ki for online therapy. I appreciate the input!!

 

Counter-snake! You have the advantage, theoretically, of being able to spend more time around her. So it won't necessarily have to be a fast move, but start your slithering!

 

That guy was for sure a rebound. So your best bet is to feel it out. Be very careful not to get into the friend zone. You run a risk of being a rebound too, but f*%k it. Give it a whirl you never know what will happen.

Oh yeah, WE NEED PICS!

 

Niiiiice, you are absolutely right! That is some great advice! I'm the one she spends most evenings evenings with her, wakes up and has breakfast with her on weekends and gets to do the "so how was your day" talks and have those convos all the time.

I CAN take my time with this and work things right without being one of the million a-holes that's hitting on her now that she's finally single again like they were all waiting for.