Sob... so depressed, Gf and I broke off this weekend....
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Well, I didn't think this was going to happen so soon.
I thought I can try anything to hold the shaky relationship keep going but well it didn't.
She told me outright on the phone, 'we are through so don't call me anymore' I really didn't do anything wrong. All I did was maybe loved her too much, but is that a crime deserving for such a big capital punishment of my heart?
Come to think of it, maybe I probably did everything wrong from the beginning, something.... Maybe I pressured her too much for commitment... But isn't that suppose to be the other way around?
Well, I am so sad and depressed. I didn't eat anything and just played video games all day and night to not think about it too much.
We suppose to go to Fall Colors meet together and have fun for a change. So because of this I am not going... oh shucks...
Your kind and comforting words will be much appreciated here.
Thanks!
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From: Bowie
Randy- I'm sorry to hear about your heart break. It's going to hurt for a while, but time will heal you. Remember there are many more girls out there. You will find another and fall in love again!
In the mean time look at it this way... You'll get much more bonding time with the S.
In the mean time look at it this way... You'll get much more bonding time with the S.
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Hey there,
Relationships are one of those facts of life you never can quite put a finger on. Perhaps once the dust settles, and she is in a better frame of mind, she will explain to you why things never panned out the way you would have liked them to. Right now, you need your space just as much as she needs hers. Take her advice and don't call her. If things are meant to be, then she knows your number, and she will call you.
I can see that your'e the "commitment" type, and fret not, thats not such a bad thing. Men are just as keen on commitment as are women, although most would never admit it. Sometimes though, you are right, coaxing someone into commitment can be a frightening experience for them. I remember once I had a girlfriend who was a little pushy for commitment, and in the end it was that straw that broke my camel's back, scaring me away, and resulting in us breaking up.
Don't worry. Time will heal all wounds as someone already mentioned. No sense in becoming depressed about it. Move on. Dress up real good, and go cruising top down in style checking out the other "hunnies"
Good luck
Asif
Relationships are one of those facts of life you never can quite put a finger on. Perhaps once the dust settles, and she is in a better frame of mind, she will explain to you why things never panned out the way you would have liked them to. Right now, you need your space just as much as she needs hers. Take her advice and don't call her. If things are meant to be, then she knows your number, and she will call you.
I can see that your'e the "commitment" type, and fret not, thats not such a bad thing. Men are just as keen on commitment as are women, although most would never admit it. Sometimes though, you are right, coaxing someone into commitment can be a frightening experience for them. I remember once I had a girlfriend who was a little pushy for commitment, and in the end it was that straw that broke my camel's back, scaring me away, and resulting in us breaking up.
Don't worry. Time will heal all wounds as someone already mentioned. No sense in becoming depressed about it. Move on. Dress up real good, and go cruising top down in style checking out the other "hunnies"
Good luck
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oh damn, i know excatly how you feel. One time i sat in my room for three days cuz i did not feel like doing anything after I broke up. Once I got out three days later, I was feeling a lot better. Stop playing video games and go out and have some fun.
sometimes it's better that two people go their own ways than be in a relationship that one is not happy. Mine was more of an ego thing, I tried to break up 3 times and she wouldn't and then finally one day she's like it's over. And caught me by surprise.
anway, go to fall color and have some fun.
if u really like her, then give her some time and talk to her a bit later when she is more level headed...maybe you guys can get back together.
LIL Raja
sometimes it's better that two people go their own ways than be in a relationship that one is not happy. Mine was more of an ego thing, I tried to break up 3 times and she wouldn't and then finally one day she's like it's over. And caught me by surprise.
anway, go to fall color and have some fun.
if u really like her, then give her some time and talk to her a bit later when she is more level headed...maybe you guys can get back together.
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Randy.....Hang in there!
It will get better, I just went through the exact same thing and we're going to remain friends. I learned a lot from this relationship...(almost 3 years). It really was for the best, (in retrospect) and she needed me the other day when she got into an accident. She's ok and I'm glad I was there to help.
She went with me to Fall Colors last year but she didn't have much fun. Oh well, everything happens for a reason, you will meet somebody somewhere.
I did this weekend, hopefully!
It will get better, I just went through the exact same thing and we're going to remain friends. I learned a lot from this relationship...(almost 3 years). It really was for the best, (in retrospect) and she needed me the other day when she got into an accident. She's ok and I'm glad I was there to help.
She went with me to Fall Colors last year but she didn't have much fun.
Oh well, everything happens for a reason, you will meet somebody somewhere. I did this weekend, hopefully!
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You absolutely need to come to Fall Colors with us. I think you will have a great time and the change of scenery will be great
It is always hard seeing a friend heartbroken. Unfortunately, the only thing that heals this kind of wound is time.
It is always hard seeing a friend heartbroken. Unfortunately, the only thing that heals this kind of wound is time.
