I'm 30 years old and I can impart some wisdom about what I've learned about relationships.

First of all, there is no formula for relationships. If it works, it's because you both decided that it will.

Secondly, I've learned that "Relationships begin because of people's personalities. They end because of their character."

Based on these two (and I'm sure others will add onto it), the decision is yours alone to make. You're a college graduate. Use your critical thinking skills that you learned in school.

 

[QUOTE]The rule of thumb for age difference that I've always used is your age divided by 2, then add 6 to find the "perfect" age for your mate.

 

If she's hot, I'd date her if there was no one else to date. Then again, might as well date as many as possible.

 

5 years is really not a big Difference...I like slightly younger gals... they mature faster that males well at least me..
The thing you have to watch out for is when she goes to collage she will get drunk and end up hoking up with random dudes... then she will most probably break your heart.....

 

I agree completely. A few years ago, when I was 23, I had a brief relationship with a girl who I had known for quite a while (a good friend's sister). We always sort of "clicked" but the age difference was a scary factor (for me). When she was in college, we decided to give it a try. We got along really, really well, but we were just in two very different places in life. I was travelling a lot for work (I was in the Caribbean at the time, then in north Jersey, then in Philly, you get the point), and she was learning all the wonders of freshman year in college. BIG difference in world perspective. Anyway, while I was trying to be a responsible adult, she was trying to be 18 (for good reason. . . that's how old she was). Needless to say, I was left broken hearted when she decided that she wanted to live the typical freshman lifestyle (driking 6/7 days, hooking up, partying, etc).

To this day, we're still good friends, and I am seeing her mature very quickly (she's 20 now). However, as I look back, I realize just how different a college grad and a freshman's lives are.

So, my advice to you is to be careful. If you like her, don't screw her over. On the other hand, don't be surprised if she realizes that she wants to have fun at 18 and do what typical 18 y.o.'s do. Hey, you never know what may happen a few years down the road, when you're both "young adults". . . 27 and 22 isn't that big of a maturity gap.

Oh yeah, and if she has an older brother, who also happens to be your really, really good friend (like you were in his wedding), tell him about the relationship right away. . . keeping it a secret only leads to an ass kicking at a bachelor's party in Vegas.

 

Thanks for the replies

I agree with you yellafeva, 5 years at my age right now is a big difference. Because I feel I've changed a lot from freshman year to graduation, almost a whole new perspective in life.

I actually just met her, so I don't even know her that well. She's going into college as a Chemical Engineer, so I don't think she's the crazy drunk party type, but I don't know.

I've never been the one to date girls just to sleep with them, all my friends say I'm very picky, so the fact that I've given this much thought to her, tells me a little bit about how I feel. She's asian too, around where I live, not many good looking asian girls around here.

I'm just gonna go with the flow for now, get to know her better and see what happens.


More advice is welcome

 

dude I think that the worst especially if she is hot.. believe my even if she is slightly hot she will be the diamond of the engineering school.... believe me, I went throu 4 years of engineering undergrad...... the hottest chick that we had was probably a 5/10 in the realy word....

 

That's what guys do...... I have NEVER done that...doesn't seem as if guys have feelings sometimes, and I am 24, btw.

 

haha, I didn't think of that. She's actually going to the same school that I graduated from. A friend of mine that graduated with me was an Electrical Engineering major, he said in his 4 years there, he's seen only one good looking girl in any of his classes. I'm not really that worried about it though, most of the engineers at the school are FOBs.