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Another relationship thread
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Ok, like i posted in the married dude's thread and kyushin responded, but anyway here it is
I met this girl about a month ago through my friend's sister at my friend's house. She's 18. I'm 21. A week later she asks me to buy her alcohol which I did and ended up drinking it with her later on that night. The next day she texts me thanks for the alcohol and then i text her back and one thing led to another to where me and her sent each other over 100 text messages back and forth. Then we started talking on the phone later on that night
She did have a boyfriend at the time (about a 1 year relationship) and while talking to her on the phone, she told me about how her boyfriend wanted her to quit her job so she can see him (even though he didnt have a car and license) and how he disappeared for 8 months and did meth (for 1 day) and then came back all of a sudden and all the other bullshit. I told her that I did like her and she was thinking about breaking up with him but I told her not to unless there is no other way. I gave her a choice. I knew who the guy was and yea he is a dick and an over-cocky bastard.
Next day, we hang out at starbucks just as friends, nothing serious. Later on that night we talk on the phone and then she asks me to play truth or dare without the dare and we talk about a lot of personal things and I have nothing to hide so I wasnt worried about that. She told me everything as well.
Next day, we hang out at the park at night. We started talking and then it led to making out for a long time. Nothing happened after that. Dropped her off back at home and talked on the phone about stuff and she decides to take a "break" from her boyfriend.
Next day, we are at my friends house and I dont see her till later around 11:30 - 12 and she normally sleeps in my friend's sister's room with her. Instead of sleeping, we go into another room and make out for like 2 hrs and then she says she has to be in the other room. I'm about to leave and she says she couldnt sleep so again we make out till 4:30 in the morning and I leave and go home. We almost had sex but she said we will do it tomorrow. This is when we become "official"
Next day, same scenario except she's a little high and slightly drunk. We go into the other room and we had sex. This is the 4th day. Then I end up spending the night on the couch while she's in my friend's sister's room.
Then on labor day, for some reason she starts to seem distant, like confused in a way so I tell her that I do like her a lot and that I will always be there for her. That made her slightly relieved.
After a week of going out, she decides to break up with me because she was confused and had a lot of shit going on through her head, plus her ex sent her a text message telling her that he wasnt going to talk to her anymore. Of course I was pissed off but I didnt tell her. The next day she tells her friend that she made a wrong decision and I read that text message so me and her talk about it and then go back out.
During this whole time, one of my other friends would not stop giving me shit about her, like how she smokes weed everyday (only once or twice) and how she drinks on weekends. She even told me that she cares more about me than weed itself which I never doubted
Before the 2nd break up, me and her used to hang out everyday. I picked her up from work and hung out with her and on weekends we would hang out but for not very long. She even told me her very deepest secrets and I promised her I would not tell anyone, including her best friend. The day before the break up I asked her if she wanted to go to a car meet with me because I wanted to spend some time with just me and her. She was with my friend's sister the whole time so I kinda got a little mad and it seemed like she did want to spend more time with her friends and stuff so I decided to go by myself. Then we got into an argument about it and then got it settled, or so it seemed. Later on that night I came to see her and she decides to just break up with me (even though she is already high and drunk) and I try to talk things out but she said to come to the house tomorrow
Next day I try to talk things out and I said I was coming over and she said there's nothing to talk about so I came over anyway and tried talking to her again and then she was high of course so she wanted to avoid confrontation so she made the deicision final to break up with me and not work things out so I end up going home and drink a 6 pack of beer and become an angry drunk and pretty much all the secrets she told me, I told her best friend and my friend and then fight with her over the phone for 3 hrs and pretty much had the power to ruin her life but stopped myself from doing so. Later on I realized a huge mistake I made and pretty much beat myself up for a week. She told me like 2 weeks ago the real reasons why she broke up with me both those times and the first time she broke up with me because she said she was confused. The 2nd time was because I tried to spend too much time with her and she wanted to spend time with her friends, like have that balance between friends and relationship.
The mistakes I made with her is that I shouldve been friends with her first before rushing into a relationship. The 2nd thing I realized that I treated the relationship like with me and my other ex. My last ex which I dated for a year was straight from Japan and really had no friends and didnt go out as much. I was always at her house everyday and spent the night every weekend. I should've realized with this girl that I should've given her her own space and not spend way too much time with her. Its not entirely my fault though, at least she what she should've done was to talk and work things out before making things final so I do blame her on that part. I'm still trying to work things out with her and my focus is to gain her trust back. So far everything is working out a little better and then later on, when me and her are comfortable around each other then we will prolly go back out and things will work out for the better
Anyway, here is my story, it would've been on here sooner but I work at a call center so I try to multi-task as best as I can. You can either give me advice or flame me, I dont care. At least if you can post something like this on here, then you got some balls for doing so. I give a lot of credit and mad props for the people who actually post stuff like this on here
EX LIST
Lets just say from all the other relationships I had, she was actually the better.
First ex - Puerto Rican/Portuguese - violent as hell. She used to hit me when I didnt let her drive my mom's car even when she didnt have a license or permit! Plus she was really ghetto.
Second ex - White - her friend was always manipulating her. The reason she broke up with me because her friend made her think that the reason I was going out with her was just to have sex with her. Stupid bitch
Third ex - Puerto Rican - went out for 2 weeks. The reason she broke up with me because she wasnt over her ex even though her ex cheated on her with another guy. REAL messed up shit
Fourth ex - Japenese - went out for a year. She was 27 when I was 18 at the time. I almost married this girl because she was amazing until she moved to Georgia. After she moved, she changed. One day I went to see her and I acidentally put a microscopic dent in her car and then she goes crazy and wants to kill my dog to compensate for the ding on her car. Then a lot more bullshit happens so I leave. She calls me on my phone apologizing and then comes back to florida in august and we have make up sex Then we decide to break up on good terms and then 3 months later she gets married
Fifth ex - She is guyanese and WAY too traditional. I took her virginity from her even though I asked her if she was sure she wanted to have sex. I asked her twice so it couldnt fall back on me. Then she moves a month later
Now you know why I say this current ex is better
UPDATE:
Well here's the situation, I asked the girl if she liked someone else, then she said yes, so pretty much after that, I just ignored her and told her that I dont want to be friends with her, dont want to talk to her anymore, and dont want to acknowledge her anymore. I told her that all she is to me is another person, a bad memory, a constant bad dream. Then I told her that she wouldnt understand because I was expecting a little more from her but since she's young, she wont understand (the reason I said that was because I went out with an older lady who understood more about everything). Then she calls me, yelling at me saying that was the worst thing to say to her and I told her that, this is the way I feel so deal with it, theres nothing you can do about it so leave me alone because you wont understand. Then later on, my best friend told me that the real reason she broke up with me was because she couldnt fall in love with me and we've been going out for 3 weeks. I was like WTF? how can she determine that in 3 weeks, thats a little too early to determine something like that so that made me even more pissed so yea, I told her thanks for not being honest, thanks for not giving it a chance so at this point I'm just going to flat out ignore her and most probably never talk to her again cause most likely, she will never understand because of how young she is and the lack of maturity level and the lack of mental capacity she has.
UPDATE
I called her yesterday asking her how she can determine if she couldnt call in love with me in three weeks. I even asked other people who are older and younger than her and they all told me that there is no way you can determine something like that in so short of time. They even said that she was in the wrong. Then I kept telling her that she is young, so she wont even understand. I even told her that her best friend that is younger than her has a better understanding than her. Then I find out that the whole time she was going out with me, she just wanted to be friends the whole time and that really pissed me off. I told her that pretty much she led me on and didnt put my feelings into consideration. Then after beating the truth out of her, she finally tells me that the whole time she was going out with me, she was still in love with her ex and then she asked if i could forgive her and she made a mistake and didnt realize. I told her that I could only forgive certain mistakes and I could never forgive her for a stupid mistake like that. Then I told her that she was ****ing stupid and shouldve thought things through before making a decision like going out with me. Then she started crying a lot and I made her feel like absolute shit. Then I told her that I ****ing hated her and dont care if she suffers for it. The weird thing is that I kinda found amusement out of her pain. For some reason, it felt entertaining to me and I was kinda smiling and laughing about it. Oh well, its finally done and over with.
Ok, like i posted in the married dude's thread and kyushin responded, but anyway here it is
I met this girl about a month ago through my friend's sister at my friend's house. She's 18. I'm 21. A week later she asks me to buy her alcohol which I did and ended up drinking it with her later on that night. The next day she texts me thanks for the alcohol and then i text her back and one thing led to another to where me and her sent each other over 100 text messages back and forth. Then we started talking on the phone later on that night
She did have a boyfriend at the time (about a 1 year relationship) and while talking to her on the phone, she told me about how her boyfriend wanted her to quit her job so she can see him (even though he didnt have a car and license) and how he disappeared for 8 months and did meth (for 1 day) and then came back all of a sudden and all the other bullshit. I told her that I did like her and she was thinking about breaking up with him but I told her not to unless there is no other way. I gave her a choice. I knew who the guy was and yea he is a dick and an over-cocky bastard.
Next day, we hang out at starbucks just as friends, nothing serious. Later on that night we talk on the phone and then she asks me to play truth or dare without the dare and we talk about a lot of personal things and I have nothing to hide so I wasnt worried about that. She told me everything as well.
Next day, we hang out at the park at night. We started talking and then it led to making out for a long time. Nothing happened after that. Dropped her off back at home and talked on the phone about stuff and she decides to take a "break" from her boyfriend.
Next day, we are at my friends house and I dont see her till later around 11:30 - 12 and she normally sleeps in my friend's sister's room with her. Instead of sleeping, we go into another room and make out for like 2 hrs and then she says she has to be in the other room. I'm about to leave and she says she couldnt sleep so again we make out till 4:30 in the morning and I leave and go home. We almost had sex but she said we will do it tomorrow. This is when we become "official"
Next day, same scenario except she's a little high and slightly drunk. We go into the other room and we had sex. This is the 4th day. Then I end up spending the night on the couch while she's in my friend's sister's room.
Then on labor day, for some reason she starts to seem distant, like confused in a way so I tell her that I do like her a lot and that I will always be there for her. That made her slightly relieved.
After a week of going out, she decides to break up with me because she was confused and had a lot of shit going on through her head, plus her ex sent her a text message telling her that he wasnt going to talk to her anymore. Of course I was pissed off but I didnt tell her. The next day she tells her friend that she made a wrong decision and I read that text message so me and her talk about it and then go back out.
During this whole time, one of my other friends would not stop giving me shit about her, like how she smokes weed everyday (only once or twice) and how she drinks on weekends. She even told me that she cares more about me than weed itself which I never doubted
Before the 2nd break up, me and her used to hang out everyday. I picked her up from work and hung out with her and on weekends we would hang out but for not very long. She even told me her very deepest secrets and I promised her I would not tell anyone, including her best friend. The day before the break up I asked her if she wanted to go to a car meet with me because I wanted to spend some time with just me and her. She was with my friend's sister the whole time so I kinda got a little mad and it seemed like she did want to spend more time with her friends and stuff so I decided to go by myself. Then we got into an argument about it and then got it settled, or so it seemed. Later on that night I came to see her and she decides to just break up with me (even though she is already high and drunk) and I try to talk things out but she said to come to the house tomorrow
Next day I try to talk things out and I said I was coming over and she said there's nothing to talk about so I came over anyway and tried talking to her again and then she was high of course so she wanted to avoid confrontation so she made the deicision final to break up with me and not work things out so I end up going home and drink a 6 pack of beer and become an angry drunk and pretty much all the secrets she told me, I told her best friend and my friend and then fight with her over the phone for 3 hrs and pretty much had the power to ruin her life but stopped myself from doing so. Later on I realized a huge mistake I made and pretty much beat myself up for a week. She told me like 2 weeks ago the real reasons why she broke up with me both those times and the first time she broke up with me because she said she was confused. The 2nd time was because I tried to spend too much time with her and she wanted to spend time with her friends, like have that balance between friends and relationship.
The mistakes I made with her is that I shouldve been friends with her first before rushing into a relationship. The 2nd thing I realized that I treated the relationship like with me and my other ex. My last ex which I dated for a year was straight from Japan and really had no friends and didnt go out as much. I was always at her house everyday and spent the night every weekend. I should've realized with this girl that I should've given her her own space and not spend way too much time with her. Its not entirely my fault though, at least she what she should've done was to talk and work things out before making things final so I do blame her on that part. I'm still trying to work things out with her and my focus is to gain her trust back. So far everything is working out a little better and then later on, when me and her are comfortable around each other then we will prolly go back out and things will work out for the better
Anyway, here is my story, it would've been on here sooner but I work at a call center so I try to multi-task as best as I can. You can either give me advice or flame me, I dont care. At least if you can post something like this on here, then you got some balls for doing so. I give a lot of credit and mad props for the people who actually post stuff like this on here
EX LIST
Lets just say from all the other relationships I had, she was actually the better.
First ex - Puerto Rican/Portuguese - violent as hell. She used to hit me when I didnt let her drive my mom's car even when she didnt have a license or permit! Plus she was really ghetto.
Second ex - White - her friend was always manipulating her. The reason she broke up with me because her friend made her think that the reason I was going out with her was just to have sex with her. Stupid bitch
Third ex - Puerto Rican - went out for 2 weeks. The reason she broke up with me because she wasnt over her ex even though her ex cheated on her with another guy. REAL messed up shit
Fourth ex - Japenese - went out for a year. She was 27 when I was 18 at the time. I almost married this girl because she was amazing until she moved to Georgia. After she moved, she changed. One day I went to see her and I acidentally put a microscopic dent in her car and then she goes crazy and wants to kill my dog to compensate for the ding on her car. Then a lot more bullshit happens so I leave. She calls me on my phone apologizing and then comes back to florida in august and we have make up sex Then we decide to break up on good terms and then 3 months later she gets married
Fifth ex - She is guyanese and WAY too traditional. I took her virginity from her even though I asked her if she was sure she wanted to have sex. I asked her twice so it couldnt fall back on me. Then she moves a month later
Now you know why I say this current ex is better
UPDATE:
Well here's the situation, I asked the girl if she liked someone else, then she said yes, so pretty much after that, I just ignored her and told her that I dont want to be friends with her, dont want to talk to her anymore, and dont want to acknowledge her anymore. I told her that all she is to me is another person, a bad memory, a constant bad dream. Then I told her that she wouldnt understand because I was expecting a little more from her but since she's young, she wont understand (the reason I said that was because I went out with an older lady who understood more about everything). Then she calls me, yelling at me saying that was the worst thing to say to her and I told her that, this is the way I feel so deal with it, theres nothing you can do about it so leave me alone because you wont understand. Then later on, my best friend told me that the real reason she broke up with me was because she couldnt fall in love with me and we've been going out for 3 weeks. I was like WTF? how can she determine that in 3 weeks, thats a little too early to determine something like that so that made me even more pissed so yea, I told her thanks for not being honest, thanks for not giving it a chance so at this point I'm just going to flat out ignore her and most probably never talk to her again cause most likely, she will never understand because of how young she is and the lack of maturity level and the lack of mental capacity she has.
UPDATE
I called her yesterday asking her how she can determine if she couldnt call in love with me in three weeks. I even asked other people who are older and younger than her and they all told me that there is no way you can determine something like that in so short of time. They even said that she was in the wrong. Then I kept telling her that she is young, so she wont even understand. I even told her that her best friend that is younger than her has a better understanding than her. Then I find out that the whole time she was going out with me, she just wanted to be friends the whole time and that really pissed me off. I told her that pretty much she led me on and didnt put my feelings into consideration. Then after beating the truth out of her, she finally tells me that the whole time she was going out with me, she was still in love with her ex and then she asked if i could forgive her and she made a mistake and didnt realize. I told her that I could only forgive certain mistakes and I could never forgive her for a stupid mistake like that. Then I told her that she was ****ing stupid and shouldve thought things through before making a decision like going out with me. Then she started crying a lot and I made her feel like absolute shit. Then I told her that I ****ing hated her and dont care if she suffers for it. The weird thing is that I kinda found amusement out of her pain. For some reason, it felt entertaining to me and I was kinda smiling and laughing about it. Oh well, its finally done and over with.
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Dude, who makes out for that long? 
. Unless, you were high too. 
Read all the shit you wrote, and you'll see the problem. It's bad enough for two normal, sane people to get together. When you throw in other boyfriends, drugs, and alcohol, you're asking for an emotional disaster. If I was there, and she was hot, I would have slapped skin too. That's it though, I don't see why you feel the need to pursue this further, you're just pussy whooped. Go get some somewhere else and things will look up immediately.
. Unless, you were high too. Read all the shit you wrote, and you'll see the problem. It's bad enough for two normal, sane people to get together. When you throw in other boyfriends, drugs, and alcohol, you're asking for an emotional disaster. If I was there, and she was hot, I would have slapped skin too. That's it though, I don't see why you feel the need to pursue this further, you're just pussy whooped. Go get some somewhere else and things will look up immediately.
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Well right now, we're still trying to work things out and its getting better. She trusts me a lot more now and we are actually starting to hang out with each other so I figured I'd give it one more shot and if it doesnt work then oh well. Shit happens and I'll just move on
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Originally Posted by gosixers215,Oct 9 2007, 08:32 AM
I say sport fuck her again then gank all her weed.
That's it though, I don't see why you feel the need to pursue this further, you're just pussy whooped.
Lets just say from all the other relationships I had, she was actually the better.
First ex - Puerto Rican/Portuguese - violent as hell. She used to hit me when I didnt let her drive my mom's car even when she didnt have a license or permit! Plus she was really ghetto.
Second ex - White - her friend was always manipulating her. The reason she broke up with me because her friend made her think that the reason I was going out with her was just to have sex with her. Stupid bitch
Third ex - Puerto Rican - went out for 2 weeks. The reason she broke up with me because she wasnt over her ex even though her ex cheated on her with another guy. REAL messed up shit
Fourth ex - Japenese - went out for a year. She was 27 when I was 18 at the time. I almost married this girl because she was amazing until she moved to Georgia. After she moved, she changed. One day I went to see her and I acidentally put a microscopic dent in her car and then she goes crazy and wants to kill my dog to compensate for the ding on her car. Then a lot more bullshit happens so I leave. She calls me on my phone apologizing and then comes back to florida in august and we have make up sex
Then we decide to break up on good terms and then 3 months later she gets marriedFifth ex - She is guyanese and WAY too traditional. I took her virginity from her even though I asked her if she was sure she wanted to have sex. I asked her twice so it couldnt fall back on me. Then she moves a month later
Now you know why I say this current ex is better