This sucks! After two and a half years we're finally calling it quits. The last couple months were rocky as hell but noone wanted to give up on the invested time so we put up with each others crap. Who's in my boat?

 

that's life. just be happy that you guys have the senses to realize that you are not happy together and that you cannot find ways to make things work, now, as oppose to dragging it on for a longer period of time. yes, it sucks to end a long term relationship. it may seem as if all that time was for nothing, but reality is that you both have grown throughout that time, and have influenced each other that shaped you into the people you guys are today. so, in that sense, all that time was not for nothing. on the brighter side, it is always exciting to be in a new relationship and meet new people in general. who knows, you might eventually realize that having broken up with your gf was actually a good thing, for you have found someone else that you are uterally more happy with. it always make me sad to see couples who are together merely for the sake of being together, when you can just see from their eyes that they are not content with their situations. i personally would rather be alone than force myself to be in a situation like that.

 

thanks for the reply. Meeting people is always a challenge for me so that part I'm not really looking forward to. I am thinking of getting away this weekend, possibly cali. Any advice of where to go?

 

wow. that's a far getaway!! which part of CA are you visiting??

 

I don't know, I just came up with the idea a minute ago. I have off the next 5 days.

 

Let us know if you come down to Southern Cali, the So Cal group will show ya around!

 

Dont worry, you're gonna be ok. It sucks at first, but it gets better. I broke up with this guy after about 4 years of dating (back in college). I was miserable at first but then I surrounded myself with people and I had a great time. I actually thought I would seriously never meet anyone I would like that much ever again. My roommate at the time told me something that I'll never forget. Its not really breathtaking but she said 'I just dont understand why people are so sad when they get out of a relationship...life is NOT over at that point, its just beginning.' I always think of her when I hear people are going though a bad break up. The end of my misery was when she said that...so I went out all the time, partied it up..and promised myself that I wouldnt date anyone till I was done with school...and of course that's when love found me again...when I wasnt looking for it. I've been dating this guy for about a year and a half now. Things are great. So dont worry....just go out!

I reccommend visiting a friend and going out. Dont spend too much time alone unless you're your driving your S2K...then that doesnt really count but its ok. And have fun!!

 

thanks for the advice. unfortunately this feeling is all to familiar to me. I was engaged in the relationship before this one. I thought this relationship was the one because of the things I learned in the past. I don't know how many times I have to go through this crap until I get it right.

 

As many as it takes....it'll happen. Just keep your head up, enjoy life & don't look for it. It will find you.