"blind date" update
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wow, sounds like you had a great time! i'm happy for you!!!!
personally, it's very hard to break the "friendship" relationship, but it really seems that there is a spark. maybe you failed to see it for whatever reason, but you see it now....or at least the potential for it.
my take on this is.....you were friends and now you have a choice in pursuing this into another light. the thing is, you've known him for TWO years.....in my book, this is a long enough time to know someone relatively well. hey, you were willing to give a complete stranger a try, why not a good friend? there are many perks to dating a friend.
lastly, IF you feel that if this ended and he could take it (and you for that matter) and still be able to work in the same place (ie. bump into each other, etc.....comes down to maturity and respect), then i say go for it!!! =)
personally, it's very hard to break the "friendship" relationship, but it really seems that there is a spark. maybe you failed to see it for whatever reason, but you see it now....or at least the potential for it.
my take on this is.....you were friends and now you have a choice in pursuing this into another light. the thing is, you've known him for TWO years.....in my book, this is a long enough time to know someone relatively well. hey, you were willing to give a complete stranger a try, why not a good friend? there are many perks to dating a friend.
lastly, IF you feel that if this ended and he could take it (and you for that matter) and still be able to work in the same place (ie. bump into each other, etc.....comes down to maturity and respect), then i say go for it!!! =)
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Originally posted by HTownScene
YOU LOSE IF YOU NEVER TRY!
YOU LOSE IF YOU NEVER TRY!
if you were my longterm friend and you asked me....i'd say "go for it".
oh...and tomorrow, i'd be just a tad bit nicer to him than you usually are (dont' want to look too pressed or ga ga....and don't forget to say "thank you" for a great night.
(but i'm sure he'll say that to you first )
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And bondgurl... I simply have to say go for it. Don't hold back. In my eyes, the worst thing that can happen is if you can't decide whether to go for it or not, because you will inadvertently send out mixed signals to him as to how you feel about dating him. Friendship is great and all, but never settle.
Of course, the easiest way to handle this from here, in my opinion, is to be honest with your feelings, and tell him exactly what you've told us here! Very simple
Very cool story bondgurl, thanks for keeping us updated! I, too, learned a new move there
Of course, the easiest way to handle this from here, in my opinion, is to be honest with your feelings, and tell him exactly what you've told us here! Very simple
Very cool story bondgurl, thanks for keeping us updated! I, too, learned a new move there
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i'm stting here at 11:23pm, being bored as i can be. i saw "blind date" on the Today's active list a couple times earlier; seeing as how i ran out of threads to read, i figure i'll dive into an Off-topic one. definately glad that i did, the story was great. i'm really glad these types of things are really happening to good people.
i'm not such a confident giver of advice anymore (screwed up a good thing a while back), but i say go with what you really think is best. if you got this nagging feeling that things will go wrong and you keep worrying about what it'll be like if things go wrong, then i say just stick to being friends. but if you have the other nagging feeling that if you let this go you'll be missing something very rare and very special, then give him a chance. i think you could imagine the "thoughfulness-potential" of this guy if he put this all together and you both ended up having a good time. thoughtful-guys (that are true gentlemen) are rare and few in number.
honestly, i've sort of forgotten what it feels like to get that feeling in ur stomach when someone really is attracted to you like that. reading your story brought back some good memories/feelings. thanks.
i know that everything will work out for the best. you seem like a kind person, and your friend seems like a nice (daring) guy. sounds like a good thing to me. best wishes.
-secret
i'm not such a confident giver of advice anymore (screwed up a good thing a while back), but i say go with what you really think is best. if you got this nagging feeling that things will go wrong and you keep worrying about what it'll be like if things go wrong, then i say just stick to being friends. but if you have the other nagging feeling that if you let this go you'll be missing something very rare and very special, then give him a chance. i think you could imagine the "thoughfulness-potential" of this guy if he put this all together and you both ended up having a good time. thoughtful-guys (that are true gentlemen) are rare and few in number.
honestly, i've sort of forgotten what it feels like to get that feeling in ur stomach when someone really is attracted to you like that. reading your story brought back some good memories/feelings. thanks.
i know that everything will work out for the best. you seem like a kind person, and your friend seems like a nice (daring) guy. sounds like a good thing to me. best wishes.
-secret