i'm going on a blind date this weekend (my first "serious" blind date). what do we talk about? how do i start a conversation with a man i don't even know? your inputs will be greatly appreciated!

ash

 

Hey bondgurl101,

Good luck on your blind date and make sure to tell us how it goes...

Well, just my .02--I actually don't think I've ever gone on a blind date--but I do know that people like to talk about themselves soooo just make sure to ask the questions! I'd suggest starting off with what kind of movies they like--horror, comedy, etc... then who their favorite actor/actress and why? You better hope he doesn't say Asia Carrera in Girls part 2!! Then you know what kind of night you're going to have! Just kidding! Okay--well--I would just continue asking questions about him--get him talking--makes the night go by fast! Ask what his astrological sign is--if you know anything about them--you can ask him if he knows and what it says about his personality etc... What are you going to do on this date? Dinner, movie??

Have fun!

 

thanks a_May_zing_1!

he'll probably have alot to say about himself cause he's a doctor. i don't want to sound discriminating but.... he's not even the same nationality as me and that's important to me. i know, i know... it's not like i'm gonna marry him, right??? anyway. we're going to timpano's, it's a italian chop house (i think). from what i heard, it's suppose to be romantic. i'm not sure i'll like that. you know how those places are always sooo quiet. well... thanks again for your advice.

ash

 

Whats important to you? That he be the same nationality as you?...
Well good luck on your date, just be yourself. I mean whats the worst that going to happen, you just wont get along and the night will end a little early, ohh well, lol.

G'luck

 

First impressions are HUGE. They pretty much set the precedent for how the other person thinks that the night will go.

Don't be too overbearing, but at the same time don't be too withdrawn/timid, or you'll look standoffish.

 

First problem is its not me - Just kidding!

Make a mental list of different key questions you have in mind and tuck that away. Start off with light hearted conversation. Talk about the weather whatever keep the ball rolling if he doesn't. Most people like to talk about themselves so just be interested and talk about him. You'll get an idea of how he really is too. I do this all the time and people think I'm their best friend even though they know nothing about me.

I have a whole ethos and protocol I extrapolate in social interactions but why go into that.

 

We have something in common already!

 

Good luck on your date. I married the girl who was my first blind date. We talked about family first. Her experiences growing up etc. But have a great time! Let us know how it goes.

 

personally, i know many doctors. unfortunately, doctors LOVE to brag about themselves, whether directly or indirectly. if you ask too many questions about him, he will get big-headed, as most doctors do. if you're lucky, he will be a down-to-earth doctor, meaning he will be modest (hard to find those) and well-mannered.

the doctors that i know who are NOT married, almost ALLLLLLL have dating problems b/c they're rather cocky when it comes to girls. "i'm a doctor, all the chicks want me bad." these are the kinds of comments/attitudes i get when i'm around them.

just be careful. i don't want to intimidate you. i'm only telling you this as a "just in case" or precautionary advice. all in all, you know the bottom line....just try to have fun and enjoy the night out!

ps....i agree about the romantic atmosphere portion. go to a bar, where you're not forced to talk/look at him only. lots of activity and noise lead to a more relaxed situation on first dates (the dreaded moments of silence aren't as noticeable or dramatic)....especially blind dates, since you know close to nothing about each other.

just my 2cents. HAVE FUN@!!

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by darth_2k
[B]Good luck on your date.