You'll notice everything I said applies every bit as much to a father as a mother? Women generally are the care providers. Mothers tend to be more relucant to work over time than fathers or people without kids. They tend to be more focused on family and less focused on their job. Obviously you'll find exceptions, but on the average the women is the primary care giver in a family. The primary care giver, be they man or woman, tends to work fewer hours and have more distractions.

Trust me - I've thought of the implications of having a kid and there's no way i'm ready for it. If it happened and I ended up being the family man and never took work home or worked more than 40 hours a week I think I'd know why I kept getting passed over for promotions.

Women are more expected to have a family and take care of the kids, but doing it just because you're following a stereotype only to complain later is ridiculous. I would hope anyone having kids would take the responsibility of figuring out how they are going to handle the added responsibilities.

If you want to take 6 months off of work (often atleast twice) and never work over time and can't see how that could possibly have an effect on promotions you're living in lala land. Employers care a lot less about why your personal life effects your work than how it effects your work. Just think of it with sex completely removed from the picture... I wasn't trying to say that men have no responsibility for their children.

 

Ok i get what you are trying to say, but think of it this way either a man or a woman and you've taken that time off or are going too. Now if you think you are gonna be passed up on those promotions why not try and show some extra initiative in your job. Keep in contact with what is going on in the company and if there is anything that you could possibly do from home to help out. It stands out, that although you might not be putting in the OT at work you still would like to be involved with what is going on. I worked with people that worked double shifts it doesnt mean that they got anything done and they worked 30 more hours a week than I did yet I still managed to get promotions while they didn't.

 

Why is the "In thing" in hollywood right now a race to out spawn other celebs? ^^ Seems EVERYONE havin kids

 

[QUOTE=ElTianti,Dec 22 2006, 10:13 AM] Bitch's world view: