I seem to have more $ than my relatives. Any time we go out to eat with any relative (my side or wifes) we always pay since it seems that everyone else has shitty jobs.....

I want to go to a stock car school and I will most likely stay at my brother and sister in laws.....

He wants to do the school......they have a Nissan truck and a Mini Cooper S, so it is not like they are "POOR", but he works as an airport screener making ~$10.00 an hour..

The cost is $1k for the school. I was thinking about just paying for him. (it would take him about 125 hours of work to get to $1000 after taxes...)...

I don't mind paying if he enjoys it and I don't expect anything in return or plan to hold it over his head.....

Anyone else in the same situation?

 

Been there a couple of times and I would say avoid paying. First you don't know if you will insult the person, and second, and much worse, is that they might come to expect it all the time. I would avoid it.

Dinner once and a while might be fine, but big ticket items are a trap.

 

As long as you don't expect anything in return and it will also heighten your experience, I would do it.

I bought a plane ticket for my friend to travel to Thailand with me, worth every penny. Wouldn't have been the same without him! He said "thank you" and we never mentioned it again. Now all we remember is a great trip!

 

This is kind of what I was thinking. It is much more fun to do something with someone you know and semi enjoy their company..... Your trip to Thailand sounds like a perfect example!

We have bought cars, paid rent, paid security deposits for other relatives with nothing expected in return..........I am not sure how I am related to so many poor people.

I guess I will now need to figure out how to tactifully ask / offer to pay....

 

For me it depends on who it is. Anytime I have paid for stuff, I expect nothing in return. All I hope is the person(s) enjoy it. In some cases though, I have gotten pissed off from not getting a simple thank you.

 

I could see that pissing me off. I just sponsored some lady at my work for a walk-a-thon.... she didn't even say thanks..... just walked away with me $$$.

[QUOTE=Nishant,Apr 26 2006, 10:18 AM]I have gotten pissed off

 

The other thing is I realized...

I also dislike that some expect me to pay all the time. I know I paid for everything the first/second time but why should you expect me to do it all the time.

If all they did was take out their wallet/purse showing me they are willing to pay, I would still go ahead and take care of the bill. That would be fine with me but for them to sit there when the bill shows up and expect me to just pick it up is another thing.

 

Well honestly, i would say do it just cause. My family is like that. If we want to get the other something else we just do it. I know when i was able to afford more and i knew my bro and his wife weren't doing so well... i'd pay no big deal. Same thing with my sister.. But now that they are a lil better off then me... they help me out sometimes.

If i am able to pay or whatever i do it without even thinking twice.

 

I don't see why not, especially since you're doing it with him. My sister paid for me to go to Europe with her several years ago and never expected anything in return (I thanked her over and over of course). Granted I didn't get any birthday or Christmas presents from her for the next two years or so

 

Since your staying with them while your doing it, i think you could even set it up as. Well since your being so nice and allowing me to stay at your home how about i pay for you to go with me to teh stock car school? That way its not even a big thing, and he doesnt feel like he is a lowlife taking freebies.