First experience talking to a girl, what should I say to her?
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dude, here's my fatherly advice, all the stuff I'd do if I was 15 and know what I do now.
The #1 turn on for women is...confidence. So...
don't bullshit. You would be amazed at the number of guys who've gotten laid by just saying "hey, you wanna
?"
#1 turn off for women is...the truth. So...
lie.
Actually she already knows whether she wants to hang with you or not so what you say doesn't mean anything. As long as you do it with #1 confidence and #1 without saying too much.
Basically since she already knows if she likes you or not she is either going to reject you outright or say yes to whatever you are proposing. You simply need to open the door, break the ice so to speak. Forget all the BS you hear in love songs, it doesn't work that way.
Say this: "hey, how's it going? You feel like ____________?". You fill in the blank with whatever. Nothing fancy just something you can do together.
Remember, it has nothing to do with what you say unless you say too much (see your first post). Don't you dare tell her you feel gushy even if you do. That's weak.
My suggestion is both confident (big turn on) and simple enough that you won't screw it up (I'll kick your ass if you do!).
Remember, she's either waiting for you to break the ice or couldn't give a crap so don't worry about rejection. Like I said, if she's going to reject you she already has. You can't change that. What you want to do is find out if she's interested in you NOTHING MORE!
So. keep it sweet and simple. Be confident and assertive not "umm".
If she says "sure" say cool, make arrangements to meet and leave! Don't hang around and talk getting yourself into trouble.
If she says "I can't" then that means "no". Say cool, I'll catch you later maybe and leave!
If she says "I can't, but how about _____?" Then that's more complicated. Say "Hmmm, I'll check and get back to you" then leave!
Remember the mission: gauge interest and get the hell out.
hope this helps.
The #1 turn on for women is...confidence. So...
don't bullshit. You would be amazed at the number of guys who've gotten laid by just saying "hey, you wanna
?"#1 turn off for women is...the truth. So...
lie.
Actually she already knows whether she wants to hang with you or not so what you say doesn't mean anything. As long as you do it with #1 confidence and #1 without saying too much.
Basically since she already knows if she likes you or not she is either going to reject you outright or say yes to whatever you are proposing. You simply need to open the door, break the ice so to speak. Forget all the BS you hear in love songs, it doesn't work that way.
Say this: "hey, how's it going? You feel like ____________?". You fill in the blank with whatever. Nothing fancy just something you can do together.
Remember, it has nothing to do with what you say unless you say too much (see your first post). Don't you dare tell her you feel gushy even if you do. That's weak.
My suggestion is both confident (big turn on) and simple enough that you won't screw it up (I'll kick your ass if you do!).
Remember, she's either waiting for you to break the ice or couldn't give a crap so don't worry about rejection. Like I said, if she's going to reject you she already has. You can't change that. What you want to do is find out if she's interested in you NOTHING MORE!
So. keep it sweet and simple. Be confident and assertive not "umm".
If she says "sure" say cool, make arrangements to meet and leave! Don't hang around and talk getting yourself into trouble.
If she says "I can't" then that means "no". Say cool, I'll catch you later maybe and leave!
If she says "I can't, but how about _____?" Then that's more complicated. Say "Hmmm, I'll check and get back to you" then leave!
Remember the mission: gauge interest and get the hell out.
hope this helps.
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you won't believe what the guys at my school at lunch were talking about......they were staring at girls and talking about banging them! i don't see why not
yes, i know condoms can break. i won't try sex at this early age. but at least i have the ability to daydream and have dreams at night about getting in the girl's pants.
It seems the students have gotten used to their schedule. Now, I see the girl everyday without other kids wanderin' around the halls. man, she is HOT! I actually see her 3 times a day now.
yes, i know condoms can break. i won't try sex at this early age. but at least i have the ability to daydream and have dreams at night about getting in the girl's pants.
It seems the students have gotten used to their schedule. Now, I see the girl everyday without other kids wanderin' around the halls. man, she is HOT! I actually see her 3 times a day now.
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Dr. Jekyll let me give you the best advice I have learned in my 29 years.........Be honest, no lines, no B.S........Tell her what is on your mind and go from there......women (though we dont want to admit it) are smarter then we are. They can smell a guys bullshit from miles away.........
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by DR. JEKYLL
[B]Well, as some of you know, I'm about to move in a few weeks to socal. I have a crush on this girl at my high school. I know she's not going out with anybody. She's very polite, looks hot, and is notslutty. She knows that I am a polite person. I see her at school at least 2 times everyday.
I'm thinking of calling her and saying something dumb like:
"hi ******, this is ******. I'm about to move in a few weeks. I just want to say you are the hottest girl I've ever seen. Ever since I saw your face in science class, I fell in love with you. Your eyes just mesmorize me and your hair...it's soooo perfect. It'd be great if I could get a hug from you. Anyway, I'm gonna miss you very much."
if any of you know who I am talking about and want this girl, I'm gonna be mad
[B]Well, as some of you know, I'm about to move in a few weeks to socal. I have a crush on this girl at my high school. I know she's not going out with anybody. She's very polite, looks hot, and is notslutty. She knows that I am a polite person. I see her at school at least 2 times everyday.
I'm thinking of calling her and saying something dumb like:
"hi ******, this is ******. I'm about to move in a few weeks. I just want to say you are the hottest girl I've ever seen. Ever since I saw your face in science class, I fell in love with you. Your eyes just mesmorize me and your hair...it's soooo perfect. It'd be great if I could get a hug from you. Anyway, I'm gonna miss you very much."
if any of you know who I am talking about and want this girl, I'm gonna be mad
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by cbb
[B]Dr. Jekyll let me give you the best advice I have learned in my 29 years.........Be honest, no lines, no B.S........Tell her what is on your mind and go from there......women (though we dont want to admit it) are smarter then we are.
[B]Dr. Jekyll let me give you the best advice I have learned in my 29 years.........Be honest, no lines, no B.S........Tell her what is on your mind and go from there......women (though we dont want to admit it) are smarter then we are.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by cbb
[B]Dr. Jekyll let me give you the best advice I have learned in my 29 years.........Be honest, no lines, no B.S........Tell her what is on your mind and go from there......women (though we dont want to admit it) are smarter then we are.
[B]Dr. Jekyll let me give you the best advice I have learned in my 29 years.........Be honest, no lines, no B.S........Tell her what is on your mind and go from there......women (though we dont want to admit it) are smarter then we are.