Hello S2ki,

I hate for this to be my first post but i have no other choice. I currently gave a 2003 RSX-S but hopefully after winter i'll trade it in for a 2002+ ....S2000 (my dream ride).
I have been reappy depressed lately. I've been dating this girl for 3 yrs and about 3 months ago she cheated on me with this kid i knew. She met him by me and he used me to get to know her. I am alittle better now even though i stilll love her deeply and feel she is the one for me. We still talk on the phone but she is dating that other kid now. We still have sex like 1 or 2 a week and it hurts but i just love getting laid. We tried not talking but we always end up calling each other. I got pissed at her 3 weeks ago and we didnt talk, until she called last night and told me how much she misses me even though she is with the other guy 24/7. It really hurts me because she is with someone thats why i want to just let her go but it jusgt seems impossible. I know she lies all the time now. We started dating when she was 16 and i was 18...now i am 21 and she is 19.
My first relationship was 14 months and i had no problem moving on, but with this girl it is diffrent. I cant stop thinking of her and i wish we could still be together. She wants to be with him but then again calls me when he's at work and acts like we are still dating telling me she loves me and all that bullshit. What should i do??? Thank You to everyone that replies.
Adam

 

My advice...

Ditch the b!tch. A girl who would cheat on you after THREE years, is a)clinically insane b)Has no compassion or real love c)complete b!tch.

If you know the kid she cheated on you with, and he knew she was still your girlfriend, give him a good shiner.

 

tell her face to face that you don't want her in your life anymore. this means, no calling and no screwing. then be strong and move on. like you said, this girl is dishonest, and she is disloyal, both with you as well as with this other guy. even if you guys get back together she'll be screwing someone else behind your back. this is just the pattern in her behavior and personality from what you are telling us. on the other hand, if you can manage to detach yourself emotionally from this girl, and she does not have a problem with continuing to sleep with you every so often, then why not?? there's nothing wrong with getting laid, but only do so if you are able to not be emotional about it, and let her know that you guys are just screwing for the sake of screwing and nothing else. but no matter what, don't even toy with the idea of getting back together with this girl because you are just setting yourself up for more heartbreak and disappointment. this is probably the oldest cliche in the book, but there ARE other great women out there--and some of them are honest and loyal.

 

Of course i knew the guy, we used to play basketball together and i invited him to my parties once in a while.

 

Show a little backbone and cut all ties with her. She doesnt love you--she is using you and playing you like a fool. Find someone else and take your mind of what is going on. Betrayal is never forgivable under any circumstance.

 

I agree to break all contact with her.... she's most likely going to continue with her ways..regardless if she's with you and screwing someone else or with someone else and screwing you. I wouldn't give her a second of my time for ANY reason.

 

thats also pretty dirty, bro. Two dudes screwing the same girl at the same time---talk about sloppy seconds. Are you sure this is the girl of your dreams??? just because you lust for her doesnt mean you love her. Remember....dont fall in love with a girl's looks, fall in love with her personality.

 

You know, the pain you're suffering from is being caused (and being amplified) by the fact that you're:

1) Still keeping in contact with her.
2) Still sleeping with her.

The only way to get rid of your sorrows is to ditch this tramp entirely, and move on with your life. You see, deep down inside, you know it's over, but you still keep her around. But by seeing and sleeping with her, you're reliving the breakup over and over again. So, in a sense, you're in denial. Sorry to be so blunt, but you've gotta snap out of it. Because no matter how you look at it, this isn't "love".

Sorry to hear man...I've been there, and it sucks...

 

Use her A$$ (until you find someone new) Just keep cool like nothings wrong. Go about your business, keep everything normal get laid and find a new girl, then cut ties when you find that better person!

If you cut ties right away your still gonna feel the same just your not gonna get any. This may sound immature but she wasted 3yrs of your life.. she might as well compensate.. without her knowing its over.

 

[QUOTE=JasonX82,Nov 8 2004, 04:30 PM] Use her A$$ (until you find someone new) Just keep cool like nothings wrong. Go about your business, keep everything normal get laid and find a new girl, then cut ties when you find that better person!