[QUOTE=VoIPA,Nov 11 2004, 11:10 AM] Hmmm.

 

Damn WTF going on here...
There are girls you get busy with and others which you build things with seems like you just need to have fun sorting through the mix.

 

wow, and it's not even February yet.

 

BTW, is your cousin a boy or a girl.
If your gf takes her shirt off in front of a male relative, it's pretty weird.

 

You guys are 17 and 18.... you're young, stupid, naive, having fun -- hell, I'm only 21 and I'm still making mistakes and learning from them. It's as if you're expecting her to think like a 30 year old.

 

Geez, people. 30 isn't the end of the world, nor the beginning of maturity. I know, I'm some unspecified age above that. You kids under 20 really need to get out a bit more and quit tying your self worth to the opposite sex. Otherwise you just look like a bunch of whining babies.

 

I only used 30 as a number for example purposes... wasn't trying to offend those who are there or above.

 

Not offended, you little whipper-snapper!

 

Accept her past or move on. Dwelling on it is kind of creepy, in this female's opinion. I would bolt if I were her and read what you wrote--it comes across as not only patronizing, but controlling. No offense intended, honestly. Just my opinion. You could be a wonderful guy.

Why do you need to "deal with" her past? You can't change what happened. Are you judgemental? Has she violated your standards of behavior? Does it embarass you? Are you worried she'll repeat it? From what you've described, she sounds like a lot of girls. Bad relationships and one night stands. (ok, the cousin thing is weird, but whatever.) It sounds like you want a perfect girl with no baggage and this one ain't it.

Good luck.

 

you wont be able to handle her unless you decide to grow up.