um, wtf? Chicks go to the club to get free drinks from guys. Guys go to the club to pick up chicks. Guys get all pissy when girl wants free drink, and somehow thinks buying a girl a drink somehow makes her his gf for the rest of the night? WTF, who raised you?

You buy a girl a drink for being nice to you so far, not so she'll laugh at your lame jokes all night. If your game sucks, she'll take the drink and leave. If not, she'll take the drink and stay and chat. But is she then supposed to hit you up for drinks the rest of the night? And what if she doesn't have sex with you after you buy her drinks all night? Are you gonna get all pissy like someohow she owed you at that point?

What you should have done is bought her a drink, and then told her you want to talk to the people you came with, and you'll give her a call one of these days, and then walk away. She won't ignore you after that, and at least then you don't feel let down.

She's not playing you, you just don't know how to be social at the clubs.

 

im not old enough to drink.......

 

My game is strong so this doesn't apply to me
Any one ever heard this one comedian I think it was J Arnez or someone, he was talking about this subject saying girls come to the club with $3 and leave drunker than the bartender

 

Hahaha, you went to a club named Bedcovering....

 

I'm sorry man but I would have to disagree with you on this one. First of all, it was a known fact that her intention was to just talk to guys and be all flirty just to get the free drink because her friend came and told me herself because she told her that that was her clear intention.

And no you don't have to buy a girl a drink at a club to be social. I've spoken to many girls and have gotten their phone numbers without ever buying a girl a drink. What does that mean?... well it means that she's actually interested in you and not your wallet, so if you want to be the dumbass that forks over your hard earned cash to a rich prissy girl that is just using you for a drink, then so be it. Just don't feel sorry for yourself when you see her hooking up with another guy after you just bought her the "Social Drink" for her supposedly being nice to you. More like she's being nice to you because she wants the drink and that's it.

Oh yeah... BTW... if you have "game", you will never, at any point of the night, have to buy the girl a drink.

To me it sounds like you're one of those guys that's P*ssy Whipped and gets B*tched around by girls a lot and they get what they want from you just by saying...

And a question to you... how does buying a girl a drink and then ending the convo make any sense to you about being social?

 

If she looks bomb anne up! You post that other thread picking up chicks in cars, you gotta live up to the name!

Next time bring more money, then hit that sh-t.

 

um, yeah. See, buying someone a drink is nothing. I'll always make more money, so one drink != big deal. I buy my friends drinks all the time. I don't expect them to talk to me all night like they owe me. Get over the cost of a drink, or stop going to clubs until you can afford it. At the very least stop complaining about YOUR problem.

If you have "game," you buy people drinks - it's part of the game you supposedly have. Getting a number without buying a drink is easy. I hardly think that is some kind of coup. Not buying someone a drink for pleasant conversation is just cheap and lame.

You still haven't said how expecting someone to pretend to be your gf for the night is remotely justified after one drink. How long do you expect anyone, girl or not, to be "interested in you" if you act like a cheap bastard? What goes around comes around, and buying people drinks is an age-old social convention. If a girl goes to the club without a lot of money, and relies on strangers to buy her drinks, she isn't a lush who goes out to get hammered and go home with who-ever looks good at the end of the night. I guess if you want to restrict yourself to only lushes with no scruples, go right ahead.

yeah, I'm pussy-whipped because you went home frustrated the other night :/

The social part of buying a girl a drink and then going to talk to someone else is you are talking to many people, not trying to monopolize anyone's time in some futile attempt to get laid. The thing about going to clubs and cocktail parties is to socialize, not spend the entire night tied to one or two people. If you buy a girl a drink, then go talk to some other people while she goes and talks to other people, at some point she might want to talk to you again, seeing as you are not some "velcro" personality that can't let go after some casual socializing. You put way too much importance on some random connection, and while she might not have a problem getting together for a casual lunch, she probably wasn't out there looking for a clingy boyfriend.

Again, why the hell does buying one drink make her beholden to you for the rest of the night? She wanted you to buy her a drink, you were too cheap to spring for it, so here you are talking smack about her? WTF? Sounds to me like you don't know how to behave in that kind of situation, and as a result, try to put the blame on other people. Relax, buy girls drinks if they are nice, not simply because you think it will help you get laid. It WILL help, but not doing it certainly won't. And I don't know why you think some girl that just happens to live near your work makes for a match made in heaven She's just some girl you met who seemed nice, not your potential soulmate. Now you've convinced her you are a cheap bastard who won't spring for a drink at a club, how can you expect her to think she should waste her time getting to know you better?

Seriously, relax when you go to the clubs. If you can't afford to buy a girl a drink, tell her that, rather than try to make her feel bad for her cash situation. You're not so different. If you are bitter that a friendly girl can ask you to buy her a drink, and you feel like you can't ask your friends, that's on you, not her.

 

Ya, you got that right... It should always be a pleasure buying a good looking a lady a drink Esp when they're cool as -F... Why the h3ll wouldn't you!!

You don't got money, don't go out!! No pun intended.

 

First off... I think you should seriously take your precious time to read the original post that I wrote and any other entries that I made because you are assuming way too many things about the ISOLATED situation. This wasn't a general situation of meeting a girl at a club. Now let's see if you can read... IT WAS A KNOWN FACT AND IS A KNOWN FACT THAT THAT GIRL ONLY TALKS TO GUYS TO GET THEM TO BUY HER DRINKS AND THAT'S IT!!!! Do we have that straight now? Hope so... let's move on.

Buying someone a drink when you know that they are only talking to you for that reason isn't just nothing. It is something... it's wrong!!!! If you want to be the B*tch to give in to that, then so be it. I'm in no way going to buy a girl that I just met a drink because she asked me to. I'm no one's father or mother and she by no means was a friend of mine. So you're telling me that if every girl came up to you to ask you for a drink you would? That's pretty stupid and you would find yourself buying many girls drinks cause word spreads fast of the IGNORANT SPENDER.

Now don't go assuming that I can't afford a drink or that she's so poor that she's asking people for drinks. She is by no means poor. Her parents bought her an apartment in midtown Manhattan just so that she has a place to go when she goes out on the weekends. Now if you don't know... buying an apartment in midtown Manhattan is not something the average person can afford. So it's not the point of her not having money but her trying to scam guys (like you) to buy her drinks. Now you don't know me from anywhere, so to make an assumption that I'm poor because I don't get a girl a drink is pretty lame. For all you know I could be a rich Mofo or a poor mofo. Now if I as poor, it just shows your lack of character to compare yourself to someone else's misfortune. You might as well compare yourself to the starving people of Ethiopia.

Now the "game". The game has nothing to do with flaunting your money around. The "game" is how well you work with your body language and verbal skills. You don't need to buy a girl a drink to get her to talk to you. Maybe you do cause of your lack of communication skills... but that's YOUR problem.

It's not even an issue of being cheap here. A well-mannered girl would wait for us to offer her a drink, not ask for one not even 5 min into the conversation. So don't assume I'm cheap. You assumed I came home frustrated when I didn't, that night I met two other girls, didn't have to buy them any form of drink, and one of them asked me to come hang out with her again at the same place on friday, not because of a drink, but because she found me interesting and fun to be with. Now, next time I will offer her a drink because she's genuine. In my opinion, buying a girl a drink or taking her out to dinner should only happen the second time around, not the first, which has worked perfectly fine for me. I just posted this as a warning to be careful but your thick head can't seem to comprehend that.

I never at any point of this post did I say I expected her to talk to me the rest of night or was looking for a soulmate or just to get laid. Wouldn't want to talk to her the whole night cause it would be annoying. I do agree with you to talk to a few people and see what's out there, not just one person. Remember... she asked me to lunch, I didn't ask her. She ACTED as being nice, she really wasn't. And the only thing I convinced her of was that I wouldn't fall for her tricks and get her a drink, so she moved on to some other fool (like you) that did buy her a drink and right after ignored his a$$... I don't see how you think that is right, but that's you. I handled that situation just fine, and I was even told so by her friend that I did the right thing cause she knows exactly what she does. She watched my back for me.

Buying rounds for friends is a lot different than a random person. They're life long friends and you know they're not there to screw you over. I buy them drinks all the time and myself, so again, assuming I can't afford something is misjudgement of your part because you don't know me.

I seriously think you should read the original post buddy cause you lost me somewhere. Well... enjoy taking your lame, supposedly rich personality to a club or social gathering and spending your money on some chick that's there to D*ck you around... Kudos for you!!!!

 

"IT WAS A KNOWN FACT AND IS A KNOWN FACT THAT THAT GIRL ONLY TALKS TO GUYS TO GET THEM TO BUY HER DRINKS AND THAT'S IT!!!! "

Sure, and you only talk to girls/buy girls drinks to get laid. I fail to see the major moral difference that you see.

I would be happy to buy someone a drink if they chat with me and are pleasant and sociable. I don't care if they are just talking to me to get a drink or alking to me because they think I have a kind face. Either way, after talking with them for a bit, and buying them a drink, there are still no obligations, and they are free to mingle. If the same person hits me up every time I see them, it might be an issue, but one drink out of the night in exchange for pleasant conversation and maybe a hug isn't that big a deal to me.

People acting nice ARE being nice. That's what it's all about. You might think someone is being a jerk, but you still ACT nice, and hence, ARE being nice. Calling someone a jerk because you think they are isn't being *nice*. She might really have thought you were a good person to get to know, but you proved her wrong. Pat yourself on the back for not falling for that age-old trap of thinking people actually like you somewhat :/

I seriously don't know why you let it bother you so much. You already said this was a friend of a friend. You were told she goes out to clubs and gets free drinks. How much of what you were told was flavored by the other girl's attitude concerning a certain tall, hot blonde? Or do you think women NEVER act catty?

And for the record, just because her parents bought her a condo doesn't mean she has money falling out her asshole herself. I know several people whose parents purchased a condo for them, and they work and pay their own bills. Their parents just don't feel like watching their children waste their earnings on rent vs. equity, and happen to be in a position to do something about it. That doesn't make them snobs, elitist, or jerks.

I'm not going to argue with you about this. You seem to cast insults at anyone who presents a different way of looking at things. That is a another problem for you to work on.