I'm not one of those drunken chicks...I get drunk, but I don't get easy...(unless it's with my man )

 

 

Dam I love it when you play hard to get!!!
Sooooooo hooot!

 

That is really the best thing thing to do. I agree 110%. I was grade A a$$hole to women when I was in high school and college. Karma is a beyatch and I got the payback in spades. All I can recommend is the following...
1) listen to Zgirl. The relationship ended for reason. Don't dwell on it, don't look for "closure". For whatever reason, it's done and you can't change that.
2) keep yourself occupied. You may be going out, but are you meeting people? Flirting? or going out to same places you used to go with her (in the hopes that she will be there, see you and fall in love all over again
) If you're going to the same old placed and you see her, then you're not doing yourself any good and in fact, your headed down the road of "playing headgames i.e. lets see if she gets jealous when I talk to another gir... BS".
3) get rid of anything she gave you, pics of y'all together, etc. they're useless and will only cause you to pine over her more.
4) Hook-up with someone.
5) avoid the rebound. Don't go out and find another GF. If you do that, you're just looking to fill a void left by that other person. You'll end up clinging to the new GF and she'll dump you b/c you'll be too damn co-dependent.
6) titty bars can be a good thing. The hot chicks are friendly (you know they'll come over a BS for a little while trying to get you to buy a dance). Talk to them, be cool and you'll get one hell of a dance!

All in all, you're in a tough spot brutha, and I feel for ya. But, stick to your guns, don't puss out and call her etc.

 

Definitely keep yourself occupied, that's great advice. Most people will get down, not want to go out, etc. That will make the healing impossible. Your life can and will go on without that person. But the most important step at the beginning of a relationship, which will help you in the long run, is be with them not because you need them...If you need them, things will be very very hard if/when you break up. Relationships are more healthy if you each have your own separate lives, so if/when you break up, it's not too hard to get back into the swing of things. If you let your life revolve around this person, when they leave, you won't know what to do with yourself...And by that point, you've lost most of your friends, too. I'm watching a friend go through this now...very difficult...

 

Time, that's it plain and simple. Sometimes making a list of things that were bad about the relationship/person (there are some) helps, but in the end it's time.

 

How did you get over a girl?


Run her over with the S..

 

nah, dont go to a titty bar, that might make it worse.... do as i do... use a sacrifice... go out and meet a new girl... it sounds bad to use a girl as a rebound... but girls do it so why not us guys... have a party and invite some peeps over and drink it up... u'll find some cool people that way.


Yeah baby!
Alex

 

I took tenblades advice.....

Its a combo deal, get occupied with other people, and let time pass.

The worst is, if they decide to comeback once youve gotten over them... then your in for a ride my friend. At least i went for one.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by shift_9k
I took tenblades advice.....