I'm not really a guy who has ever really wanted a relationship. I have always been this way just because its pretty much a waste IMO at my age (I'm 20)

When I do see girls multipule times, I usually end up getting annoyed for some reason or another and stop talking to them. Because of this, I usually try to date older girls who are more mature.

But recently, I began talking to a younger girl who is pretty cool. We would talk for hours at a time, we have a lot in common. Her and her dad built a camaro from the ground up which is cool as shit, she knows how to ride a motorcycle, and she isnt a tom boy!

She told me that shes heard all these good things about me from her closest friends and how thats scored major points yada yada.

I asked her out one day and she agreed, so, we made plans. We hang out on our first date and have a great time. Laughs, fun and all. It was actually the most fun I've had with a girl in a while.

Keep in mind I'm not really looking for a relationship or anything and she just came out of one. Back at my house she asks me to play the guitar for her, so I sit there and half ass a few songs while she sits and stares in amazement.

Shortly after, I had an opportunity to kiss her, so I did the whole 90/10 rule and she tells me she doesnt normally kiss on the first date and has only had sex with her boyfriends.

My response to this was: "Well this doesnt involve you kissing, does it?" and I lean in and start kissing her neck. She enjoyed it but I stopped because I didnt feel like pressuring her.

Anyway, so tonight in a text convo, she made metion that she was smoking pot. In a previous conversation, she asked me if I smoked (I don't) and her response was that she quit.

Smoking is a huge turn off for me. I hate the way people are on it, especially girls. No offense if you do it. So I let her know this by saying "I know its not my place or anything, but it bothers me that you smoke" then I felt kinda bad so I told her that she has a lot more good things than one bad thing.

From here she twists the conversation into how she just wants to make sure that shes not leading me on and how she doesnt want a relationship, ect. Even though I don't want a relationship, this came off as an insult to me. Mostly because a few days ago she was saying how I am scoring all these points with her yada yada... points for what? She doesnt want a relationship, she only has had sex with boyfriends... what the hell do I redeem my points for? A teddy bear?

(It seems almost as if she was interested before but now she isnt) If thats the case then so be it.

I have a real short straw for bullshit, so I deleted her from my facebook and myspace and don't plan on responding to any of her calls.

This may have been immature of me but, while I was at it, I deleted every other girl in the accounts, lol. If they care to add me back then good, I'll accept them. The ones that don't notice, oh well.

So my new approach to girls is to not care about what they want, well at least until I'm 25.

Be the flame, not the moth

Oh well lol. Anyway, I just wanted to type my thoughts out.

 

By making a point not to care, you show how much you really do care.

 

We seriously need to start an Emo section on s2ki...

 

you should be smoking pot with her.

you're 20. live a little before the white collar/blue collar world overcomes your life.

 

I had a similar situation. Some of this may sound the same as yours.

I started talking to this girl. She liked alot of things the normal guy would like to do that usually a girl would never think of doing and wasnt a tomboy either. We also had many things in common. Our life goals were exactly the same and we had the same view on life.

At the time I met her she had a bf. He used to be my best friend back in grade school but his lack of maturity and always being stuck on himself led to me just stop talking to him.

So we text from morning till dark. Thats seriously no lie it was from 10am till 12pm on a bad day. We talked at school every morning. She came to a few of my classes just to be around me.

So she has a few things that she needs help to cope with. Being me im there for her and would do anything to help her. So one night she wanted to go drink. Being that I 1) dont like drining and 2) had feelings for her, I talked her out of it. A few days later she thanked me for it and said that her bf didnt care that she drank and he was even going to just drink with her.

Her stap dad and mom were fighting oneday so she goes out on the porch and calls me crying. I instantly tell her that I would come pick her up and we would go do something to get her mind off that. But her mom came out and got her.

During the summer she goes to her dads house. Nothing changed with talking at all. I alays made her laugh and her family just stared at her like she was carzy. I made up a story about hitting a turtle on the way to work oneday (my old del sol sat low) and ever since then everything was about turtles. I would come home and turn on the tv and there was Rob and Big turtle racing. Another forum I get on had some stuff about turtles and when she read the paper it had a thing about were people where worried about the turtles getting hit on the road. No lie all of this happen the same day. I also made up a story about a guy named Bob. This story began on the first day I met her. It grew to one huge story (if you want to know the story ill pm ya).

At her dads house none of them knew who I was biut she talked about me so often that they began to since that I am one of the very few guys that wasnt out to just have sex and leave. She told me that I was like her father adnshe liked that.

Well we talk and talk and finally tell eachother how we feel towards one another. This is the best part. Whenever she would go places with her bf she would sit in the passenger seat and text me . I was never so honored.

For all of you that are still reading, she did dump her current bf and then a few weeks later she did the unthinkable. She went with another guy. I was Pis**d. I stopped talking to her as soon as I found out. I even had a shop class with the bo and I avoided him. So later they broke up and I decided to give it another shot.

So we didnt become as close as before and she did something that I would never forgive her of. She went back to the first guy. I stopped talking to her as soon as I heard that. When I walk through the halls I ignore her. I look or walk the other wa no matter what she says. And till this day I kind of miss having her to talk to.

I used to tell myself that if her bf ever did anything to hurt her he was going to pay. All in all I think I cared for her alot. We where in h.s at the time. I was 17 she was 16. Ah young love haha.

Any way sorry to thread jack, I just needed to tell someone my story.

But for you I personally think you did the right thing. I would have done the exact same thing you did. I even went as far as deleting her number out of my phone.

 

I'd have to agree here OR you can drink with her while she smokes. Getting her under the influence increases your chances of scoring. After you score, you probably won't like her anymore anyways. Most chicks at least want to have a "possibility" of a relationship with a guy so it creates a justification for them sleeping with you and not feeling like a total slut. If you keep them in limbo and never set anything in stone, you are golden. However, if the pot smoking is a hot issue with you, just stop talking to her. Smoking pot is probably part of her lifestyle as is with most potheads. In your conversation with her, you basically said she has a crappy lifestyle...not a good way to score. If you can'r screw her in like 3 weeks of effort, cut her loose.

 

Wrong approach. Women like a challenge and foremost, money.

 

To the OP...you have no game. If you aren't out for a relationship, then you should work toward PIIHB.

 

Thats why ive changed up my game. I think im gonna do they want me but they cant have me thing. Hard to get I guess. Any other suggestions

 

you are too nice of a guy. women like that because they don't feel pressured. when you start to presure them, they back off, because they thought you are a nice guy who wasn't interested.