I understand all the "Set the boundaries" posts, but how many guys in here walk around going, "I've got a girl, dont flirt with me that is wrong!" and how many guys just shrug it off (without flirting back) and go about their day, mostly ignoring it bc the girl will move on to someone else.

My hypothesis (atleast for college): want more girls? get a girlfriend, other females will run around and do stupid stuff to get your attention.

 

I know, I know, I see your point. But my posts somewhat clarify my situation, I think.

 

Actually, it drives them bonkers when you ignore them

Instead of "moving on" like you think they would, they do the exact opposite.

 

My point entirely. You don't think it's worth it just to hang out, like I would with my female friends. Seems to me you want to play around, just as long as your long-distance girlfriend doesn't find out. If it's really just innocent flirting you're talking about, that's one thing. This doesn't sound like that though. Maybe I'm wrong.

Not much more to say about the subject - I'll leave it be. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

That point was strictly about the club, dancing, drinking and such. My girl hasn't found out anything, because nothings happened. While I understand what you may think I'm getting at, thats not the case.
So, nah I'm not into playing around, but the fact is that one does get Very Very bored sometimes. That does not give free reign, though, to play around, and thats not what I'm hinting at. I was saying girls that are friends will tend to try to flirt, pull you away from your girl, put bad thoughts in your head about your girl, and general other things when they realize you might be commited (aka cause trouble). The other thing is that they won't say anything to your girl about it, they will be Very friendly and supportive (her ex sorors, for example) to her face but later they will try to cause trouble, or let you cheat. Its just what they've done. Might not be perfect girls, of course, but its who I know. Its actually the whole click of people, we all know each other down here, and we all see each other if there's any party, because its one big group. hockey, soccer, basketball, frat, volleyball and sorors.

 

I still think you have shitty friends and/or you're giving them the impression that you're game. You can go to clubs and not try to hook up. You can go to the bar and not try to hook up. You can have a few drinks and not try to hook up. People do it all the time. And if it's really that much of a problem, either stop hanging out with other girls or admit you want to **** all your female friends and break up with your SO. You obviously want both worlds here. You can scream all you want about trying to be responsible, having a conscience, etc, but your actions have to match it.

Also, it's clique. Click is something you do to a button.

 

I think your main problem is that you want someone to blame for your own actions ... girls don't "let you cheat" you decide to cheat for yourself. If you are not cheating, then if your relationship with the SO is good, she should trust you that you are not cheating. But that trust comes from how you behave, and if you are always flirting with girls who know the SO, then the SO isn't going to trust you ....

 

 

Thanks

 

THEY ARE OPEN TO LET YOU CHEAT. I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT DOING IT. thats not rocket science. You never knew a girl that would let you hit it if you wanted to? Thats not hard to understand.