The past:

April 6: I met a girl who lives in Reno. We spent all night together, up 'til 6 am, talking and dancing. We hit it off pretty well. She invites me to lunch the next day, but cancels that morning because she gets called into work.

April 9: We talk again for about 1 1/2 hours, found out lots of things we have in common, and made plans to get together this weekend, the 20th. (She couldn't get together last weekend because she was going to San Francisco to visit some friends. Yes, I live very close to SF, but since she was visiting friends, I didn't want to interfere.)

April 14: I left a message for her, but her roommate said she wasn't back in town (from SF) yet. She didn't call back. I know she works two jobs, and is a busy girl, but still -- I was a little disappointed (I really like this one).

The present: I sucked it up and called her last night to ask about the date this weekend. Our entire conversation:

"Hi, it's Warren -- how are ya?"
"Hey Warren! I'm good, but I'm just about to run out the door to grab a beer. Are you gonna be around later?"
"Yeah, sure, I'll be around."
"Actually, nevermind, it'll probably be too late. Oh, and I'm sorry, but I have friends coming into town this weekend. I'll call you on (...thinks...) Sunday, though, ok?"
"Oh, gotcha. Well, okay -- talk to you soon then."
"Right on. Bye."

What bullshit. Sure, friends come first... but we made plans, and she didn't even have the courtesy to call me, for just a few minutes, for almost a week, to tell me she's cancelling. Thank God I hadn't made hotel reservations yet (she lives 3 hours away).

Why do girls play this stupid crap? Is she still interested or not?

- Warren

 

If she really liked you, she would have gone out with you, especially if you made a date...

You don't need that crap/bs going on in your life, and you deserve to be treated better.
(You know she'll do this crap if she was your wife/gf too)... so...

Her loss..Move on...
-- Aaron

 

Warren, you're in Santa Clara. She's in RENO!?

 

amartin,

*shrug*

jprivara,

It's only three hours, and she's my kinda girl. She beats all of the crappy women I've been meeting around here, hands down.

- Warren

 

yabut, there are plenty of male fish in the Reno sea. Her friend are probably telling her:

"What! You gonna, like, see him, like, just on weekends? That's, like, totally LAME! You can't get, like, the guys HERE to spend any time with ya, how much, like, time is (what's his name again, yeah, Warren), how much time is warren gonna spend with ya, girl?"

Females need LOT's of attention, in return for putting up with our sorry asses.

And, it's NOT 3 hours to Reno. Maybe on Sunday morning at 3am. If you're gonna visit her on weekends, your gonna be leaving Friday afternoon!!! It'll take you 3 hours to get to Pleasanton!!!

 

jprivara,

This is a girl who refuses to date men in Reno -- because, as she specifically told me, 1) she hates the industry there, and therefore hates the menfolk there, and 2) she's ready to move somewhere else soon and doesn't want to get tied down. This was backed up by her roommate and friend -- she hasn't dated anyone since she broke up with an LTR six months ago -- and not for lack of men trying to hit on her. Both her friend and roommate approved of me, and they both made comments about she and I. I asked her if she was considering San Francisco.. she said it was "#1 on her list of places to live."

- Warren

 

Ok, shit, I'll drive 5 hours. I have a nice car. I like to drive.

- Warren

 

Hmmm, I don't know then. (Of course, I didn't know before either. LOL) We ARE talking about females here. Me giving advice about females is about as useful and dangerous as me giving you over-the-phone do-it-yourself brain surgery instructions.

I will defer, then, to the more intelligent sex for a better answer.

 

jprivara,

Trust me dude, if it were obvious that she wasn't interested, I'd have moved on long ago. The only reason I'm posting here is because I'm confused as shit about it. I'm not exactly new to the art of reading the womenfolk either.

- Warren

 

I think you need to decide what is best for you. In my opinion she is doing one of three things:

1. She's giving you the run around and isn't really that interested.
2. She's just playing hard to get.
3. She really is just super busy.

For me...I won't wait around for a girl like that, but...If you really think she could turn out to be the one, I would play the game a little longer and see what happens. However if thing do end up working out, she owes you for this! Good luck man and keep us posted.