I think you are all too BIASED!!!

PWRMKR, before I repeat/rephrase the question... let me tell you all why I posted this poll. I have a good friend who is definitely a geek/nerd by most definitions. He has a delightful girlfriend who in my eyes is equally nerdy/geeky. They have been together for almost a year, and compliment each other perfectly. Or so I thought. Last night my friend told me that his girlfriend got mad at him for being such a geek. Big surprise to me, since now I'm thinking, great -- even his geeky girlfriend thinks of him as that "unacceptable" kind of geek.

So I'm just trying to think about whether or not my friend needs to improve social skills and all-around "normalness", or if his g/f needs a change in attitude. I know that personally, I had a problem for a long time where I would shun geeks and nerds as if they brought me down -- I am myself a geek and a nerd but for some reason I have always felt like I need to hide it and learn how to get rid of that as much as possible. Which of course is sad, and I realize that, and now I could care less. I think I had that mindset so that I could have a chance at being accepted by girls who are nongeeks, i.e. "normal". But now I think geeky girls are the cutest.

Bottom line, both my friend and his girlfriend are my friends, and since I'm the one that kind of set them up a year ago, I'm wondering if maybe I should have a chat with one of them about this. This is their first relationship (for both of them) and it seems to have gone very very well thus far, but I'm afraid for them because of this particular stumbling block since it is pretty fundamental. Any suggestions?

 

Sexiest dork ever!

 

I'm talking about the way one carries oneself, social habits, fashion sense, common topics of discussion.... you know, the whole picture.

 

Steve,

At my age, I don't really care if a person is a dork or a geek anymore.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by SteveUCI
[B]

Sexiest dork ever!

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by SteveUCI
[B]Bottom line, both my friend and his girlfriend are my friends, and since I'm the one that kind of set them up a year ago, I'm wondering if maybe I should have a chat with one of them about this.

 

You're right. Staying out of it sounds like the thing to do. I've done very well with that so far. I guess I'm just afraid for my friend since he's 26 and even though he's very level-headed and smart, he will probably be in big trouble with depression if she breaks up with him.

Whether or not he can change himself depends on his ability to think outside the nerd box and compare himself to others who "seem normal." Something that is hard to do in the beginning. I think if he did so, yes he would be trying to be someone he's not, but I think it would do him good to increase his awareness of how the world works around him. Not something that could be done overnight so I hope his girlfriend understands that.

 

I would not call myself a geek or nerd. However, some people think that just because I can write a Unix script, and debug other peoples' C, Java, or VB code, I am a geek. I think geek really refers to biting heads off live birds, so I don't know if I appreciate being called that Since I am always the one hassling my friends to go out, and my musical tastes are punk, Pixies, alternative, ska, I have a hard time understanding why simply possessing extensive computer knowledge negates everything else in my life. Not that I care about the petty names others call me I am the one they call when they need help with anything to do with technology

 

Hmm,
Reminds me of UC Irvine. Every year the school of Engineering would have a "Nerd contest". The contestant with the nerdiest act would win. Always a biggest draw among the E-week contest.

My gf thinks I'm geeky and still adores me.
Now I know that's love.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by S2020
[B]My gf thinks I'm geeky and still adores me.