IM NOT THINKING OF KIDS AT MY AGE - BUT THIS DOES COME ACROSS MY MIND MORE AND MORE.....

I have a gf who I've been with off and on for 3 years. She is my best friend and we do get along great. As time goes on and she speaks of our future relationship - I cant help but to think is this really going to work.

I am open-minded, no doubt. However, I have some limitations and I am very scientific when it comes to most things.

She however - believes in psychics, aorma therapy, fung shua(spell check), zodiac signs, does not believe in the bible at all, etc.


As time is going on, i NEVER tell her "ur wrong for believing X" - because who am i to judge. To me, everyone can do there own thing and we can just all get along. Most of the time I just let it go when i hear her speaking of something i find silly, but im starting to wonder - how is our difference in beliefs going to affect the kids - should we ever have any. I mean, i don't want my kids being fed this crap. Am I wrong for thinking like this?


You guys ever have a relationship like this?
How did you handle it?

 

I told her to get her bitch ass back in the kitchen and make me a pie!

 

belief and science really can overlap, you know. same goes with zodiac and the bible, mysticism and religion, etc etc.

find the middle ground.

 

I am married to a Japanese woman who is Bhuddist. I am baptised Catholic but attend service at a Lutheran church.

As far as her beliefs go, she is not into any voodoo new age goofiness, but to her, bhuddism is sort of some good luck superstition, (do this for good luck, do that for good luck) and not much more. She really does not say much about what she believes as far as spiritual stuff. She seems to be pretty agnostic.

I think it is easier to have a long term deal with someone you share beliefs with, but as far as the wife and I go, if we have kids, she knows they are getting baptized and going to church on Sunday even if she does not. If she does not believe what I do, I can't make her. My kids will get exposed to sunday service, and when they are adults can make up their own mind to practice the religion if they choose.

But as far as the new age crap, I would ask her why a mainstream religion seems like hokey when she obviously is looking for some kind of spirituality in her life. That is not to say she will ever join you in your beliefs, but why does one find the major religions to be full of bunk but the zodiac and psychics seem to be the shiznit? Seems odd, but hey, people follow LRH and Lord Xenu.

 

as long as she gets in the kitchen and makes you a sammich or gets you a beer when you need one... who cares? God didnt give her a mouth for the purpose of spouting her personal beliefs.

 

Based on the above comment, I think you already know where this is going. I don't know if it's about the spirituality or either of your systems of belief, or something else entirely, but you've already made up your mind.

If she's being open & bold enough to talk about a future relationship, you should be open & bold enough to say that you don't see a future with her. There isn't anything wrong with saying you don't see a future, but if you stay in the relationship while she doesn't know that you're not in it for the long haul, that's not fair to her.

Unless she's down for just keeping it casual until you decide you're done, she'll probably end things with you once you are honest about how you see the relationship.

Sorry if the bluntness offends you, but that's just how I see it.

There's really no reason to stay in a relationship where you see no future when your partner is expecting a future; it's a selfish move. Either you're comfortable & don't want to rock the boat or you need the security of the relationship or you don't want man up & tell her how you feel, whatever the case holding on to this relationship when you know your mutual expectations are not aligned is not the wisest thing to do.

Good luck.

 

Easy answer. Talk to her about your feelings.

 

Teach your kids everything, when they're old enough, let them decide.

 

Queue the background music!

 

Don't have kids.