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set ground rules....
1. things you do.
2. things you don't.
if you find someone else that's like minded about abiding by and respecting ground rules, you'll be set for life.....if you want to think that far ahead, that is.
1. things you do.
2. things you don't.
if you find someone else that's like minded about abiding by and respecting ground rules, you'll be set for life.....if you want to think that far ahead, that is.
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Originally Posted by rubyrashel,Jan 3 2007, 01:47 PM
its not really right to the next girl that your using to get over with, unless you make it obvious you don't want a relationship. I was in an almost identicle situation, except my ex just wouldnt stop talking to his ex-gf. So i was the nagger. Its one thing to respect me by introducing me if shes such a good friend, its another to be sneaky/sly and get phone calls at 4 in the morning and then lie about the caller. Her boyfriend didn't even know either, that is until I tracked him down and told him 
The only thing that would have made me feel better/or still could cause im still hurting, is another guy. Once you have another person to think about, you won't think of the ex as much. Unfortunately all the men I come across are um 'not up to par'. So its good to find a "rebound" just don't #### with their heart. It would be ashame if you start talking to a girl to get over your ex, and the other girl starts falling for you.
The only thing that would have made me feel better/or still could cause im still hurting, is another guy. Once you have another person to think about, you won't think of the ex as much. Unfortunately all the men I come across are um 'not up to par'. So its good to find a "rebound" just don't #### with their heart. It would be ashame if you start talking to a girl to get over your ex, and the other girl starts falling for you.
I wouldn't ever want to hurt anyone after everything I've been through. If it is a "benefits only" relationship, I would make sure it's mutual.
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Originally Posted by PLYRS 3,Jan 3 2007, 01:55 PM
set ground rules....
1. things you do.
2. things you don't.
if you find someone else that's like minded about abiding by and respecting ground rules, you'll be set for life.....if you want to think that far ahead, that is.
1. things you do.
2. things you don't.
if you find someone else that's like minded about abiding by and respecting ground rules, you'll be set for life.....if you want to think that far ahead, that is.
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Originally Posted by npham,Jan 3 2007, 11:38 AM
Yea I was drinking with friends, but I normally am not a drinker. I just took shot after shot of Bacardi 151.
I'm 20, she is 19.
[QUOTE]we go to the same school.
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Jan 3 2007, 02:03 PM
Ummm, you know what the "151" in Bacardi 151 means, right?
What were you doing with a steady girflriend? You're 20; enjoy all that life has to offer.
How big is the school? Same program? I mean, if it's a small college of 200, then yeah, that sucks, but if there's 20,000 people at the school, I mean. . . c'mon.
[QUOTE]From a simple standpoint, again, you're 20; and were enjoying all that life had to offer. From an ethics standpoint, did you let her know? Were you truthful about what you were going to do? If you were, then this says volumes more about her than you.
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Originally Posted by npham,Jan 3 2007, 11:38 AM
Yea I was drinking with friends, but I normally am not a drinker. I just took shot after shot of Bacardi 151.
I'm 20, she is 19.
No kids, still going to school. BTW we go to the same school.
She could not get over the two times that I defended my best friends when she got in an argument with them. A couple of times I chose to hang out with friends that went off to college and came back into town for a couple of days.
The one time she can't seem to get over is when I went clubbing and her friends saw some girls initiating conversations and trying to dance with me. She had not trust in me at all, so she assumed that I did something I didn't.
I loved her a lot, so I tried and tried to work it out hoping she would forget, but it didn't happen. Too stubborn.
I'm 20, she is 19.
No kids, still going to school. BTW we go to the same school.
She could not get over the two times that I defended my best friends when she got in an argument with them. A couple of times I chose to hang out with friends that went off to college and came back into town for a couple of days.
The one time she can't seem to get over is when I went clubbing and her friends saw some girls initiating conversations and trying to dance with me. She had not trust in me at all, so she assumed that I did something I didn't.
I loved her a lot, so I tried and tried to work it out hoping she would forget, but it didn't happen. Too stubborn.
Don't take other peoples side over your mates. Women esspecially are very sensitive to this. logic and loyalty do not resonate with them like it does us, they want a cheerleader.
Figure out a way to inform your friends that you don't appreciate them arguing with your girl, without telling them they were wrong about the actual argument. She needs to see you have her back, or she want feel secure. Security is very important to women.
It sounds like your circle of friends overlap, I suggest your next girlfriend come from outside the circle.
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Originally Posted by npham,Jan 3 2007, 02:38 PM
I'm 20, she is 19.
She could not get over the two times that I defended my best friends when she got in an argument with them. A couple of times I chose to hang out with friends that went off to college and came back into town for a couple of days.
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Originally Posted by DarkSigma,Jan 3 2007, 02:19 PM
Don't take other peoples side over your mates. Women esspecially are very sensitive to this. logic and loyalty do not resonate with them like it does us, they want a cheerleader.
Figure out a way to inform your friends that you don't appreciate them arguing with your girl, without telling them they were wrong about the actual argument.
She needs to see you have her back, or she want feel secure. Security is very important to women.