As the title says, Would you recommend getting married? TV and movies always talk about how much marriage sucks, but how do you feel from a personal standpoint? You can respond if you are married or not- I just want to hear some real world opinions...

 

ahh the big debate.. I personally can't wait to get married. Many of my friends are married, they constantly tell me to avoid it like the plague. Then again, these are the guys that cheat on thier wife, or divorced a few times. A few are very happy however.

I gotta tell ya though, I see a lot of upsides to it from an outsiders point of view.

I guess it depends on the woman?

 

My dad told me years ago never to get married. Instead, find a woman I hate and buy her a house.

The thing is, I don't believe in divorce, and I'm not sure I've found someone I feel compatible with. I love my girlfriend more than anyone I've loved before, but I have my doubts as to whether or not we can make it. Besides, if Brad and Jen can break up, what hope is there for the rest of us?

 

Somehow I think I could of handled being married to Jen for a day

 

Oh, goodness. It's not about 'get married' or 'don't get married' - it's about finding someone who sways your vote from one to the other

 

You get all the tangible benefits from a girlfriend that you get from a wife. However, all the negatives are much more detrimental when you're married. I guess you get married for all the intangible benefits, but to me, the potential cost of the negatives plus the fact that you can get all the tangible benefits from a girlfriend outweigh any intangible benefit.

I'm not married by the way, so maybe who is married can give some inciteful reasons to get married.

 

If she's richer than you? why not?

 

I know I want to get married as I've found the perfect person for me, but I think the whole question also very much depends on the person and their personality.

If you think you can live a 'marriage', then why not. Of course, the bit of paper you sign just makes it illegal for either of you to go sleeping with another person, but marriage is also a bond between you and your partner. But to each and everyone to visualise this as they see fit.

Over here, a married couple will pay less taxes and earn more money if they have kids, so there can even be some advantages to being married, but the disadvantages can also be quite outrageously nasty, from humiliation to going broke.

In the past, it was a way to ensure that families existed, which often resulted in a better and more secure upkeep of children, and the current divorce rate reflects some of the unnerving qualities of modern day children and their downright "bratty-ness", but if you think you have what it takes to live the next 50 years (a considerable time) together with the same person of the opposite (or same) sex, often in an amorous (and sometimes boring or even spiteful) relationship, then do it.

If you do NOT get along well with people or your current partner, yoou might want to give it another thought. Getting married just for the sake of getting married is not worth it. You should get married if you want to justify to your partner that you can give them 100% of yourself.

Therefore, I cannot answer either yes or no to your question. I can answer yes for myself, but it could very well be a no for you. And none of it has to do with maturity or being an adult. Adults, as well as children and teenagers, can do the darnest things :\

Just my two cents

 

This year will be our 35th anniversary. If you add that we started going "steady" in HS that totals 41 years. I think it is a great institution with the right person. A wonderful way to share lifes experiences. With that said it takes a lot of work, understanding, give and take, etc.
If you are not committed (like the pig in a bacon and eggs breakfast) don't do it. It is far to easy to go the divorce route versus dealing with differences.

Just my $.02

 

heh, you sound like my dad (he loves telling that story). Anyway, what you said rings true for me too. Thumbs up to that