2008 was pretty good here in Vintage, though.

 

Doug, we've been where you are, it's a very difficult time. Best advice don't let your Mom run herself down dealing with this situation, or caring for your Dad. She needs to take care of herself too. This kind of thing is very difficult on the "healthy" spouse, as well as the entire family.

 

Thanks Lainey, and you are 100% right, I'm keeping as close of an eye on Mom as I can (50-miles away) because she has got to keep up her mental strength. Yesterday was the 1st time I saw my Dad in such a way that lead me to believe he is not coming home again.

 

 

Doug, if your father needs to be cared for in a place other than their home, help your mother along with that decision. Don't let anyone give her a guilt trip. Mom cannot sacrifice her own health to care for your dad, and some spouses do exactly that.

My aunt just had to make that decision for my uncle. She had no other choice, but of course, one of her sons who doesn't live nearby, and doesn't visit all that often had plenty to say about his Dad being placed.

It is one of the hardest decisions your Mom and your family will make. I when it was time for my Dad to be placed, and again when Rick's Mom had to be placed in a nursing facility, but there is no other way sometimes.

 

I hear ya, believe me...

Based upon Dad's long battle with heart disease he is well connected to the VA Center here, which just happens to be a fantastic facility, such a great facility I might add that when the government went through may years ago in their so called cost cutting wisdom ( ) this VA Center was kept open. Because of the location, the quality of the care, the Dr.'s, the nurses we and Dad know there and of course the price, this is our 1st priority for placement.

Mom's Mom was in a nursing home for 10+years and she was the primary care giver so this is an issue we do indeed have experience with, which provides wisdom, of course it does not make it easier.

 

Doug, if I lived closer I swing by with the MGA and give him a ride. Best wishes.

 

Maybe you should let her sleep in occasionally.

I'm not looking forward to 2009. I don't know if anything bad will actually happen, but I know I'll spend a lot of the year worrying.

 

Sorry to hear about your Dad Doug I hope things go as smoothly as possible for you and your family.

 

Thx Dave!!!

Funny you should mention the A, I have never looked forward to this day if ya know what I mean, but Mom said yesterday she was going to put his A into my name this week...