i need to know. i am at a dead stop in my life and it's not moving forward. i am about to dump everything and start all over. That includes the friends I hang out with, the way I think etc. I am thinking about going back to get further educating myself and setting higher goals. I know this sounds kind of shallow, but has anyone tried self improvement and started all over. I am 28 yrs old, is it too late???

LIL Raja

 

The question has to be what are you trying to achieve and how has your life come to a stop ?
Your expectations may be too high.

Expect some strange responses, this is the corner after all.

 

(1) I suggest you sell or give awy all of your worldly possessions, move to Dharmsala, India, and study under the Dalai Lama.

(2) Andy, I like your new avatar.

 

Thanks George, me too.
Had to be a good one to lose the policeman.

 

Cool avatar Andy.


Like Andy also said you need to work out why first and what you hope to achieve being starting again, look at the pro's and con's of it all. You need to work out if your friends have caused it to stop or if it's just you, you don't want to go dumping all your mates becuase you have screwed up.
And lastly if all else fails look to for the ansrew to everything.

.............It's fantastic.

 

Raj,

I recall a recent post from you about your infatuation with a girl that was unrequited. It was thowing you into a tizzy. At that time, my impression was that you were feeling desperate. That's the unfortunate side-effect of being single. Everyone feels it; even the guys who get all the girls.

The desire to change things is a healthy reaction to that painful emotion, and I admire the sentiment, Raj. You've got courage, and that's very important for the stage you're in. You're also willing to talk about how you feel, which puts you ahead of 99% of the other guys in the world.

I've always been a firm believer that specific changes are an act of will on your part. That's indeed what self-improvement is all about, and it's wicked hard to do. However, radical change (like chucking it all) is an escape mechanism. My firm belief is that throwing everything to the wind doesn't solve any underlying problems in yourself. Don't get me wrong; some people really need to make radical changes. But that's the exception rather than the rule.

So, Raj, take a long, hard look at yourself and try to tune out all the crap that everybody is dishing out. You cannot achieve any contentment through others' eyes; it has to be you. Maybe make a list of the things you like about yourself and the things you don't. That should give you a start. And AnDy may be right that your expectations may be out of whack. That's something you have to decide.

It is never too late to make changes in your life, Raj. Peter's really right that you should also think of your friends. If they're really your friends, they can help you through change and not hinder it. On the other hand, if they're too stuck in ways that drag you down, well yeah -- dump 'em.

Live your life to the fullest. Figure out what your dreams are and GO FOR THEM, man. That's what it's all about.

... and now back to our regularly scheduled !

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Chazmo
[B]Raj,

I recall a recent post from you about your infatuation with a girl that was unrequited.

 

First rejection at 28, Raj??? Holy crap! You gotta' be the luckiest guy in the world! Amazing.

About your career... This economy really sucks. Folks are being laid off all over the place. The question is, do you find your work enjoyable? If you do, realize that you're not alone. If not, then maybe now is the right time to try a change.

Hell, Raj, there's enough lawyers in the US. If you're gonna make a change, start a business. There's a ton of venture capital money out there, but the VCs are frightened to invest. I've never done this myself, but it sounds great if you're the right kind of guy.

Wish you well! Keep us posted.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Chazmo
[B]First rejection at 28, Raj???

 

Not too late at all. I went back to school full time for another degree at the age of 37. Changed careers, countries and love my life.

Nope, not too late. If you don't like what's going on... change it. This isn't a dress rehearsal.