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Okay Unkie, I need some guidance. Roommate guidance. 
I'm a pretty easygoing person - I don't need my home to constantly be spotless, but there's a point when you have to draw the line. On several occasions I've talked to my roomies about things that are of concern. They've nodded their heads and said okay, but I think it's a combination of them not completely understanding and not giving a flying fuck. Having worked with people whose first language isn't English, I tried some strategies to help with the understanding, to no avail. Moving is not even close to being an option for me, so how can I cope with this until the spring? Or if you have any ideas about how to get them to be respectful of both our common space AND my personal belongings, that would be fab.
I'm a pretty easygoing person - I don't need my home to constantly be spotless, but there's a point when you have to draw the line. On several occasions I've talked to my roomies about things that are of concern. They've nodded their heads and said okay, but I think it's a combination of them not completely understanding and not giving a flying fuck. Having worked with people whose first language isn't English, I tried some strategies to help with the understanding, to no avail. Moving is not even close to being an option for me, so how can I cope with this until the spring? Or if you have any ideas about how to get them to be respectful of both our common space AND my personal belongings, that would be fab.
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Originally Posted by shareall,Sep 20 2009, 08:00 AM
Okay Unkie, I need some guidance. Roommate guidance.
I'm a pretty easygoing person - I don't need my home to constantly be spotless, but there's a point when you have to draw the line. On several occasions I've talked to my roomies about things that are of concern. They've nodded their heads and said okay, but I think it's a combination of them not completely understanding and not giving a flying fuck. Having worked with people whose first language isn't English, I tried some strategies to help with the understanding, to no avail. Moving is not even close to being an option for me, so how can I cope with this until the spring? Or if you have any ideas about how to get them to be respectful of both our common space AND my personal belongings, that would be fab.
I'm a pretty easygoing person - I don't need my home to constantly be spotless, but there's a point when you have to draw the line. On several occasions I've talked to my roomies about things that are of concern. They've nodded their heads and said okay, but I think it's a combination of them not completely understanding and not giving a flying fuck. Having worked with people whose first language isn't English, I tried some strategies to help with the understanding, to no avail. Moving is not even close to being an option for me, so how can I cope with this until the spring? Or if you have any ideas about how to get them to be respectful of both our common space AND my personal belongings, that would be fab.
. . . I may be wrong.
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Sep 20 2009, 04:59 PM
I'd say pull everything from the commons area that you can. I unfortunately suspect that they're not listening to you because you're a chick. . . also, there's some age and cultural expectations here that aren't sorted out, and I don't think there's much you can do about it. . .
. . . I may be wrong.
. . . I may be wrong.
You know, I never thought about the fact that they're from patriarchal cultures, and so they may be less likely to respect what I have to say...We're all close in age, but it's interesting that the person who has come from the most privileged background (growing up with servants, etc.) is the one I have the LEAST issues with.
I think now my biggest challenge will be to keep myself in check and not starting to do stupid shit to express my frustration and anger.
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Originally Posted by shareall,Sep 20 2009, 01:12 PM
We're all close in age, but it's interesting that the person who has come from the most privileged background (growing up with servants, etc.) is the one I have the LEAST issues with.
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Originally Posted by DanZilla,Sep 20 2009, 03:49 PM
how old are you 8d?
whats ur real name?
where are you from?