Bachelor Life VIII
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From: State of Confusion
Originally Posted by KenS2K,Sep 7 2006, 10:20 PM
Finally got to see her face to face for the first time in weeks. Good conversation... pleasant time... emotionally productive... nothing magical... but the lines of communication are more open than they had been the past couple weeks. She's learning to cope with her PTSD. She seemed surprised to find that I have been very actively learning about what she's experiencing. Does not appear that others have taken the time to see the world through her wounded eyes.
Yes. I love her. Will it work out??? God only knows... I can hope can't I? You bet I can.
Yes. I love her. Will it work out??? God only knows... I can hope can't I? You bet I can.
I'm in the middle on this...partly because I'm somewhat out of the loop...and partly because your situation seems to fall squarely between two of my guidelines about dating:
1. Don't date a project. You can't fix someone's damage. They need to resolve their own inner demons. You just have to decide if you like them enough "as is" to let them do what they need to do.
2. There is no greater gift than giving someone support with no strings. The theory (at least as my feeble mind understands it) is that by giving in this manner, you increase the odds that there will be a lasting bond...but you do not give with the expectation that this bond will occur.
Or something like that...
Either way, I wish you the best, Ken.
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From: par•a•dox
Thanks Brant.
BTW: She's an Iraq war vet. Was there from the start and through the thick of it. Flight medic on Blackhawk helicopters. Seen it all. Been there... got the t-shirt... and just recently has been declared (100%) disabled by the military do to her PTSD.
<- Not looking to fix anyone. Just offering unconditional love and support to someone that deserves it.
:eyeswideopen:
BTW: She's an Iraq war vet. Was there from the start and through the thick of it. Flight medic on Blackhawk helicopters. Seen it all. Been there... got the t-shirt... and just recently has been declared (100%) disabled by the military do to her PTSD.
<- Not looking to fix anyone. Just offering unconditional love and support to someone that deserves it.
:eyeswideopen:
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From: SJC
Originally Posted by KenS2K,Sep 12 2006, 10:56 PM
Online love sucks anyway.
Well, I gotta good ping back from Yahoo! She's a Middle School Science teacher, but has already confessed to be a non-stop blabber. Film at 11. . .
I'm re-thinking my strategy. It's always best to just not be in circulation through the holiday season. . . so I may end my subscription to Yahoo! shortly.
Hold out for a biology teacher. 
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From: Pt. A to Pt. B via VTEC!!
Originally Posted by brantshali,Sep 18 2006, 12:48 AM
I could probably shut up and just not post anything...but when has ANYONE known me to shut up?!
I'm in the middle on this...partly because I'm somewhat out of the loop...and partly because your situation seems to fall squarely between two of my guidelines about dating:
1. Don't date a project. You can't fix someone's damage. They need to resolve their own inner demons. You just have to decide if you like them enough "as is" to let them do what they need to do.
2. There is no greater gift than giving someone support with no strings. The theory (at least as my feeble mind understands it) is that by giving in this manner, you increase the odds that there will be a lasting bond...but you do not give with the expectation that this bond will occur.
Or something like that...
Either way, I wish you the best, Ken.
I'm in the middle on this...partly because I'm somewhat out of the loop...and partly because your situation seems to fall squarely between two of my guidelines about dating:
1. Don't date a project. You can't fix someone's damage. They need to resolve their own inner demons. You just have to decide if you like them enough "as is" to let them do what they need to do.
2. There is no greater gift than giving someone support with no strings. The theory (at least as my feeble mind understands it) is that by giving in this manner, you increase the odds that there will be a lasting bond...but you do not give with the expectation that this bond will occur.
Or something like that...
Either way, I wish you the best, Ken.
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From: Nowhere
Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Sep 18 2006, 01:54 AM
She's getting her Ph.D. in Ed. Tech. Meh, it'll turn into a date; what's the worse that can happen. . . especially since I'm not in either Renton or Fort Wayne?
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Sep 18 2006, 01:44 AM
I'm re-thinking my strategy. It's always best to just not be in circulation through the holiday season. . . so I may end my subscription to Yahoo! shortly.
When my brother* was in high school, as a rule, broke up with his current girlfriend in early December and in late January. Sorta like two weeks notice.
* My brother got the good genes.
Bachelor again................