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Originally Posted by :hello: Monica' timestamp='1471311612' post='24040315
Officially do not like FB. Found out about a friend's recent and sudden death via facespace. The family is sharing and tagging the deceased in their posts and it all just feels grossly inappropriate. I was absolutely shocked when I found about the death. I met this guy during my first year back at school and and became friends with him after we found out we both have an S2k, we would spend our breaks talking about cars and his beautiful girlfriend. He talked about proposing to his GF and I got him set up with my jewelry guy; they've been married for a while now and are sweet couple... It's been a few years since I've seen them and we kind of lost touch, but Evan and I both really enjoyed their company. Just found out they were in a car accident and his wife passed away, and he is in critical care. Finding out about this on facebook from other people just feels really wrong, it's like people are excited to have news to share and I don't see it as news that needs to be shared ASAP.
Sorry to hear of your friend's accident LG
I think maybe the solution for not liking FB is closing it out
You seem to disagree with some of the things that occur on there.I seem to be hearing of more & more people telling me they are no longer on there. I as you know never have been so I can't JUDGE it for what occurs I just don't need it myself. You know how I feel about friends staying or being true friends - the need for FB
Did you see today's FACT or CRAP ?
No! I'll go checkie!
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Originally Posted by vtecmom' timestamp='1471358817' post='24040576
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Monica' timestamp='1471311612' post='24040315']
Officially do not like FB. Found out about a friend's recent and sudden death via facespace. The family is sharing and tagging the deceased in their posts and it all just feels grossly inappropriate. I was absolutely shocked when I found about the death. I met this guy during my first year back at school and and became friends with him after we found out we both have an S2k, we would spend our breaks talking about cars and his beautiful girlfriend. He talked about proposing to his GF and I got him set up with my jewelry guy; they've been married for a while now and are sweet couple... It's been a few years since I've seen them and we kind of lost touch, but Evan and I both really enjoyed their company. Just found out they were in a car accident and his wife passed away, and he is in critical care. Finding out about this on facebook from other people just feels really wrong, it's like people are excited to have news to share and I don't see it as news that needs to be shared ASAP.
Monica' timestamp='1471311612' post='24040315']Officially do not like FB. Found out about a friend's recent and sudden death via facespace. The family is sharing and tagging the deceased in their posts and it all just feels grossly inappropriate. I was absolutely shocked when I found about the death. I met this guy during my first year back at school and and became friends with him after we found out we both have an S2k, we would spend our breaks talking about cars and his beautiful girlfriend. He talked about proposing to his GF and I got him set up with my jewelry guy; they've been married for a while now and are sweet couple... It's been a few years since I've seen them and we kind of lost touch, but Evan and I both really enjoyed their company. Just found out they were in a car accident and his wife passed away, and he is in critical care. Finding out about this on facebook from other people just feels really wrong, it's like people are excited to have news to share and I don't see it as news that needs to be shared ASAP.
Sorry to hear of your friend's accident LG
I think maybe the solution for not liking FB is closing it out
You seem to disagree with some of the things that occur on there.I seem to be hearing of more & more people telling me they are no longer on there. I as you know never have been so I can't JUDGE it for what occurs I just don't need it myself. You know how I feel about friends staying or being true friends - the need for FB
Did you see today's FACT or CRAP ?
No! I'll go checkie!
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Yeah I see how many feel its the easy way to stay in touch
I just seem to stay in touch without it true friends stay in touch IMO falls back to the day BB mentioned to me that as far as what he read on there that someone was fine. That to me is not real life call me stupid , old fashioned , afraid of change or what ever I don't care
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I'm going to play the other side of the coin here, but I feel like you wouldn't have found out about the accident without it (as soon as you did)
I think the reason the family is probably using facebook as a medium to post this is to hit people like you, who they might not know of, or be able to pass the message on to, while not having it be truly public to everyone. The post still sits within a group of people you have met at least once or twice.
Either way, sad news regardless
I think the reason the family is probably using facebook as a medium to post this is to hit people like you, who they might not know of, or be able to pass the message on to, while not having it be truly public to everyone. The post still sits within a group of people you have met at least once or twice.
Either way, sad news regardless
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First, I'm sorry about your friend Monica. That really is terrible. 
When it comes to serious life events it's so hard to know what to post and when online, especially when grief has taken over. Sometimes there's judgement about how people "should" grieve...But I do agree that core people should be notified in a non-online way before it's posted online.
I'm back to love/hate feelings for it. 100% agree that the most meaningful relationships (regardless of distance) are maintained beyond the limits of facespace. I didn't miss it when I was gone for the better part of a year. On the other hand, for all kinds of reasons things have been challenging post-concussion and facespace has helped with that. On the other other (
) hand, I don't like how I'm on it so often even though I don't have the app on my phone or anything.
When it comes to serious life events it's so hard to know what to post and when online, especially when grief has taken over. Sometimes there's judgement about how people "should" grieve...But I do agree that core people should be notified in a non-online way before it's posted online.
I'm back to love/hate feelings for it. 100% agree that the most meaningful relationships (regardless of distance) are maintained beyond the limits of facespace. I didn't miss it when I was gone for the better part of a year. On the other hand, for all kinds of reasons things have been challenging post-concussion and facespace has helped with that. On the other other (
) hand, I don't like how I'm on it so often even though I don't have the app on my phone or anything.
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I'm going to play the other side of the coin here, but I feel like you wouldn't have found out about the accident without it (as soon as you did)
I think the reason the family is probably using facebook as a medium to post this is to hit people like you, who they might not know of, or be able to pass the message on to, while not having it be truly public to everyone. The post still sits within a group of people you have met at least once or twice.
Either way, sad news regardless
I think the reason the family is probably using facebook as a medium to post this is to hit people like you, who they might not know of, or be able to pass the message on to, while not having it be truly public to everyone. The post still sits within a group of people you have met at least once or twice.
Either way, sad news regardless
Monica likely would have never found out about their accident without FB. So...
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Something I forgot to touch on that Monica alluded to is this notion that people can seem excited to share news like this. Totally hear ya on that and am equally disgusted. Yes, people like for others to see they were among the first to know "breaking" information or are somehow connected to something dramatic. Yes, people want to show they have a connection to others. And sometimes that results in people making someone's death more of a show than an actual expression of grief. That's the stuff I have a problem with.
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Just today having my LG do my hair and as I'm lying back in the wash bowl I hear a conversation between 2 other LG's that work there…
FB this & yeah she put something on FB so so & so saw it & FB that
just seems sad to ME to waist your life worrying what others think and or DO
FB this & yeah she put something on FB so so & so saw it & FB that
just seems sad to ME to waist your life worrying what others think and or DO