I’m letting El Jefe know that he is a piece of
crap but also a damn good guy & person.

and yes, it’s just a few blocks further.

 

I’m adding this. Last night was an extremely rough night for me. I was talking to my Aunt Gini about my Mom and how they used to watch NCIS and other crime drama shows, eating popcorn, pretzels, etc and having coffee or tea.
It just hit me that my Mom is dead. I can’t ever tell her about the land I bought or introduce her to my girlfriend or any children we may have.

Life sucks sometimes.

 

I'm in agreement, but cherish the memories you do have.

 

I’m doing that - it just hits harder when it’s unexpected. When Dad passed after watching him for 5 plus years with dementia, I was prepared.
Mom’s passing was completely out of the blue.

 

Dave, I know from experience that it takes a very long time to fully grieve the loss of a loved one, I remember wanting to stop by my sister's home on several occasions while driving many months after she passed, some times it just hits you like you describe. I hope life did not suck for your mother if she lived a long and positive life, their passing as seen by us left behind can suck yes, but think of many positive things that came from the life you enjoyed with her.

I guarantee you that your mother sees the land you bought and your girlfriend, and all that comes from that. It will never be the same but she will be with you everywhere you go. If you do have children don't be surprised if they sense your mother as my son did with my father, you may just have some positive events that will let you know mom is still with you.

 

I'm saying VERY well put Joe! & yeah Dave it will be tuff at times and I too still have tuff moments when I miss both my Mom, Dad & Sister but the memories are there

 

I'm feeling that. but in relation to my puppers. Now it's the year of "firsts." The first snowfall without him will be rough - he LOVED the snow and would be SO excited at the first little bit that came. After he passed I came across a quote that said something like, Don't reduce their life to their death. I keep going back to that to remind myself those last few days were only a fraction of his life. Before that we were blessed with 5+ years of his sweet, goofball existence.

 

God Bless you Mom !

I know on two occasions our son came out of his bedroom in the morning and he described a man being in his bedroom during his sleep. He described my father to a Tee, and at that age he never seen my father as my father passed away 2 years before Patrick was born . As an Italian man my father had a very specific mannerism he used on young children by pinching and twisting their cheeks. It was something I never liked growing up , lol.

I was in the kitchen with my wife when Patrick came out of his bedroom and he asked if I was in his bedroom at night, I said no and no other man existed in our house. He said there was a man in is bedroom at night and the man pinched and twisted his cheeks. My wife and I were floored, as there as no way Patrick would ever know about that since it was never discussed in our home and he never met my father. My son reported seeing my father on two occasions. My niece had a similar experience describing my father being in her bedroom years after my father passed away (but not the cheek twisting mannerism).

I'm thinking Dave is too old to be having kids, but hey maybe he found himself a young lady lol

 

The loss of pets can be quite the punch to the gut feeling, not unlike losing a close family member. That is a very positive way of looking at their lives, and not reducing it to death, nicely said.

 

I'm telling Joe that is VERY interesting about your Son's experience