a few more months my wife and i would have been married for 10 years. i've hinted that i wanted to get her something really special, but she's adamant that i don't spend any money on gifts for her and instead put that away in savings. how else would i show the love & appreciation of a husband for his wife who has given him 10 years of happy marriage, 2 wonderful boys, and a worry-free household?

any suggestions?

 

PIIHB??????

(you knew that was coming didn't you?)

 

The first and only response matched my suggestion. Although if after 10 years you haven't had a crack at that, then, well, I wouldn't bank on it.

First of all, congrats. That's quite a long time. I've always thought that trips together away from everyone else, even just a weekend road trip is the best to commemorate the anniversary of being together. My mother actually got a little offended that all I did was call on her and my dad's 35th anniversary earlier this month. I see anniversaries as a time to be celebrated by the two people involved in them, without expecting a card or gift or anything, but that's just me.

Get out of town and just enjoy the company of each other without having to think about anything going on in the real world back home. You can not do this while just enjoying a quiet weekend at home, you need to get out of your environment.

Obviously this plan can be seasoned with all sorts of things like (depending on how far you go) you go there early and configure your room with things from the past, or with flowers, etc etc.

Then, when she's smelling one of the million flowers you placed, PIIHB.

 

she's lying when she says not to spend money on her. if you dont want to get her jewelry or something, go away for a weekend. you dont have to go to hawaii or anything, i'm sure she'll appreciate a few nights at the beach or a bed and breakfast or something.

 

My wife and i were married 32 years yesterday. Since im drilling a well
and not at home i told her to write a check out of my account for $500.00 and get whatever she wanted.....she gladly accepted

 

Agreed. A nice trip would always help, but I assume it's hard when you already have two kids.



Not to jack the thread, but in North Americans' opinion, do married couple share the same bank account or separate them. It seems like most are separated.

 

We have 3 different accounts. One for my business and a Joint account. Then i have an account with just my name on it.

 

My 10 yr is coming up in May as well. It's funny, b/c my wife said the same thing (i.e. "don't get me anything, let's just save some money for the kids, house, etc.")

I'm planning on dropping the kids with the in-laws and taking her away for a weekend at the beach. I think the memories will last longer than anything I could give her (she's not into jewelry).

 

Most folks have somewhere to off-load their kids for a couple days Hopefully that's the case here. Otherwise, chain your children to middle-back of the house with enough slack in the line to allow them 10' of escape out the back door in the event of fire (not the front door as they will be able to flag down help.

I don't plan to have separate account except for organizational purposes, where perhaps one spouse manages the account. But not for separation of funds. I don't plan to be with someone who would be so irresponsible as to go so far overboard with spending that they shouldn't have access to funds. But, who knows what'll happen.

 

take a trip, just the 2 of you. Go some where with a spa. Pamper yourselves. Enjoy each other. We went to ojai valley inn and spa this year. It was a great weekend. We haven't done something big every anniversary, but the best one's were trips by ourselves.