Had another discussion with friends about what is cheating. We agreed that if you're not in a commited relationship, then it would be considered cheating if something happend. But what if one person thought that they were in a commited relationship and the other thought they weren't with it never being discussed, would that be considered cheating if the person that thought not did something? Thoughts?

 

basis of all things is good communication.... make sure everyone is on the same page.

 

That's what I said! But if there were no communication, would it be cheating?

 

Did you blow your load on her dress and jam a cigar up her box? WILD Bill says that wasn't sex...... so you are probably good.

 

considered cheating by who? It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, it is an issue between two people. If one person feels betrayed, then yes, it is cheating. It's not that complicated. If you know how the other person would feel without their saying so, then you would be a selfish ass for screwing around behind their back. If you don't want to be with that person, don't lead them on. It is common courtesy.

 

Good way to put it! That's what I said to my friend but she thinks otherwise. She says that if the person she was "Seeing" thought that there was a commitment and she didn't know how he felt, then it wouldn't be cheating because it was never discussed. It would've been innocent for her. I then asked her if the tables were turned, how would she have felt? She didn't like that idea! She still says it's not because there was never an understanding.

 

I say no. If you're relationship is so shallow that you've never discussed rather or not it is an official relationship then it's not cheating.

 

it's not really cheating, but to her it prob is and that's all that matters.

 

It depends on what your definition of "is" is

 

I can't imagine a healthy situation where both people can be on the opposite ends of the spectrum concerning their relationship.