Drug addiction
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Originally Posted by 2wheelsmoker,Nov 14 2006, 04:17 PM
My roommate in college OD'ed on drugs. I was the first to find him dead in his room, stiff as a rock. I had known him since high school and all the CPR and first aid training I've been through could not have saved him. You can't really save someone that has no pulse and is as cold as the Gatorade in the fridge.
Rewind a little further back - when I initially found evidence of his addiction I confronted him and took his drugs away. Boy was he mad. He was cursing and throwing things at me but I wouldn't budge. Later he passed out infront of the stove, almost cooking his head. He also tore up his face with a razor while shaving. I said "That's the bottom line, this madness ends here". I called up his parents and had them take him out of school. He somehow convinced them to let him back a month later (something about how he'd be a failure in life if he didn't finish school) and 2 weeks later I'm calling the cops to collect his body.
The hardest phone call in my life was calling his parents. I can't believe after all that he killed himself. I did everything short of kicking his ass and that's the only thing I regret. If reasoning and being a good friend wasn't good enough, I was willing to be the monster. To this day I wish I instilled enough fear in him to change him. If I was guaranteed that beating him to a bloody pulp would save his life I wouldn't think twice about ending up in jail for assault and battery. That thought still haunts me today.
I for one am jaded and unforgiving. Everyday I was the bickering fool and the nosy roommate who you hated to the core. **** you Trey. I was your best friend and you turned your back on me. I never gave up, I just wasn't strong enough to do more. My advice to you is either pull out now before you're hurt or go all the way and try your best to save him from himself. Whatever the result, you tried and no one can say you didn't care.
I hope you are more successful than I was.
RIP old friend...
Rewind a little further back - when I initially found evidence of his addiction I confronted him and took his drugs away. Boy was he mad. He was cursing and throwing things at me but I wouldn't budge. Later he passed out infront of the stove, almost cooking his head. He also tore up his face with a razor while shaving. I said "That's the bottom line, this madness ends here". I called up his parents and had them take him out of school. He somehow convinced them to let him back a month later (something about how he'd be a failure in life if he didn't finish school) and 2 weeks later I'm calling the cops to collect his body.
The hardest phone call in my life was calling his parents. I can't believe after all that he killed himself. I did everything short of kicking his ass and that's the only thing I regret. If reasoning and being a good friend wasn't good enough, I was willing to be the monster. To this day I wish I instilled enough fear in him to change him. If I was guaranteed that beating him to a bloody pulp would save his life I wouldn't think twice about ending up in jail for assault and battery. That thought still haunts me today.
I for one am jaded and unforgiving. Everyday I was the bickering fool and the nosy roommate who you hated to the core. **** you Trey. I was your best friend and you turned your back on me. I never gave up, I just wasn't strong enough to do more. My advice to you is either pull out now before you're hurt or go all the way and try your best to save him from himself. Whatever the result, you tried and no one can say you didn't care.
I hope you are more successful than I was.
RIP old friend...
my boyfriend got addicted to cocaine for a span of about 3-4 mos. thank god he didn't get that deep into it. for about 3-4 mos. he was either upbeat/friendly/active (when he was high) or a total bitch-ass/angry/short-tempered prick (when he was coming down or wasn't high). on top of that, i had to deal with his penis not functioning. our friends kept telling me that brad was addicted to coke and that he looked like shit and needed to go to rehab. i thought they were just blowing his weekend "recreational" activities out of proportion and passing false rumors around. at the same time, i had been crying myself to sleep every night cause everytime we'd try to have sex he couldn't get it up. the stupid thing is that i thought it was ME, and that he just wasn't turned on by ME anymore and that i'd let myself go and i wasn't attractive enough. so one night i'm trying to get intimate with him and once again his penis is just NOT working and it all of a sudden dawns on me that his penis is obviously not working because our friends are actually telling me the truth and he does actually have a coke addiction. (i was suddenly remembering Boogie Nights and Dirk Diggler in that scene with his coke problem and his limp dick... ick.)
i told him that if he didn't stop i was going to tell his parents and i'd make sure they sent him to rehab. everyday i kept track of where he was at, what money he was spending, the way he was acting. i could tell when he was high or had been high so i made sure that there was hell to pay every single time i noticed anything. i think the fact that i could accurately call out the days that he was/had been high, scared him into realizing that he couldn't hide it from people. luckily, he figured his shit out early on and it was easier for me to help him curb his addiction... but you have to keep on top of people with addictions. they're like little kids. you just have to take away their means for getting high and make sure they know there's going to be consequences for when they do manage to find a way to get high.
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It's sad, there's no way to help him unless he decides to help himself. Even then he'll probably fail rehab because he won't have any good reason (in his mind) to not beat the nagging of the addiction. I have a good friend who had a problem. He got caught and admitted it and went into rehab and tried hard. He relapsed 2 or 3 times and is finally clean. He is always scared of the relapse though. He did have something that your friend didn't have and why 80% of the people in his situation are able to fight the addiction. It has to do with my friend's profession.
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Some of you may think that I'm joking when I say this but I seriously say break his hands with a baseball bat. It's hard to abuse something when you can't reach into your pockets or hold it.
It may be selfish, but I agree with Entralled. From what you described, he's lost his way and I don't think anything you say or do can change what he's become. You losing sleep over the subject will not change the outcome. If anything, you've learned more from this experience than he has. Consider it lucky that it's not you in his place.
It may be selfish, but I agree with Entralled. From what you described, he's lost his way and I don't think anything you say or do can change what he's become. You losing sleep over the subject will not change the outcome. If anything, you've learned more from this experience than he has. Consider it lucky that it's not you in his place.
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you cannot do anything about it. i lost my best friend to the substances. he's documented "mentally-ill" now.
anyway, there are different reasons people do drugs... if you really care, just be there to catch him when he falls, because he will in time. that's my .02
anyway, there are different reasons people do drugs... if you really care, just be there to catch him when he falls, because he will in time. that's my .02
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