thats a big time heartbreak sorry to hear that. Id maybe try and talk it over with her. No one ever said relationships were gonna be easy, alwasy gonna be rainy days. She obviously still has something for you and Im sure youve had ample amounts of time to think things over. Communication is key.

 

bittersweet poetry by kanye west.

youtube it...

 

Ok, I was involved in a situation almost exactly like this 2 years ago, I ended a 6 year relationship with my girl. Although I didnt buy an S, I bought a BMW instead

One thing that you have to do is have fun, take trips, hang with friends, go to random bars, do random stuff. Some of the most memorable times in my recent years have been because I took chances I never would've due to feeling down at times over her.

Here it is 2 years later, I have dated numerous girls since, and had a blast. Sure I havent found someone I can spend the rest of my life with but ya know what? who cares, I'm young and I've learned a LOT.

 

According to your profile, you're barely old enough to drive...

Here's a clue: everyone has relationship issues after 5, 10, 50 years. Doesn't mean it's not "meant to be." If there are no issues in a relationship, they're either emotionally retarded or dead.

 

funny, because I've been legally driving for over a decade....

sure, people have relationship issues, but most normal people are able to communicate when they're having said issues. on the other hand, when you get a couple of kids who've been in the same relationship since high school, and communication breaks down, and they separate, chances are it was for a good reason.

maybe your 'clue' has good intentions, but not in the OP's context. if you've bothered to read anything other than my post, then you'd notice this is another case of a doomed relationship. it happens. we've all had our share of those. and in his situation, you have a case of two people who have grown apart as they deal with post-adolescence. I know how that can be, as I had to deal with it a few years ago.

however, I'm well aware of long-term relationship issues. I've watched my parents marriage over the years. they've been married now for 37 years, so I've learned a thing or two from them.

 

From what I've experienced, no matter how much thoughtful advice was thrown my way via close friends, I did nothing they suggested.

It seems like in situations like this you acknowledge other peoples thoughts/opinions but act on your own desires (I.E. remaining in contact with the other party)

Instead of listening to other people, do what you gotta do and you'll find your way soon enough.

 

Posting your story here was a mistake. It's hardly understood by people who've never been into any serious relationship.

 

youre 21,in college, go pump every chick you can-worked for me after a 3 year relationship

you say it was a 5 year realtionship, im guessing it was your ONLY relationship...

 

the best advice i can give is... just let it ride.
call her if u want to, but there is no getting back with her no matter how much u want to. u love her but she don't? ther's no way to force someone to love someone else.

i remember when i was in this situation.. it doesnt matter what your friends tell you or what advice they give you, when the night comes, it's back to square one and you just want her and only her.

when she put herself in a higher position than you (in a condescending way) - like how she said she's grown up and you have growing up to do - that's a guilt trip that every break up involves. she's giving you the guilt trip - "it was all about me, i was the one that made everything great and you're the one that ****ed it up" that's called a guilt trip.

going out and banging other chicks is no use. when it's 5 years.. the things you miss about her is more than just the sex.

all i can say is.. you're into some big changes and about to head on to some big opportunities in life. ur just blinded as **** right now.

there's 5 stages in this:
stage 1 i want to get back with her, i love her, i can't live without her, how could this be true, this can't be true, we were meant to be together, i have no one but her, im gonna kill myself, she doesn't care about me, she's hanging out with other guys, it's not fair, i miss her, she belongs to me.

stage 2 talk with homies, get counseling, be dormant, think about her day and night, look at the pictures you guys took, miss her, stay home, maybe stalk her, u don't feel like doing school work, you don't feel like going outside with your friends, you don't feel like doing anything but staying at home. cry to bed. emotional stage

stage 1 and stage 2 may be repetitive. it could from weeks to years back and forth stage 1 and 2. first 2 stages are the most confusing stages.

stage 3 ur still dormant, you like your own little area that you feel comfortable in, closest friends call you up, you still dont feel like doing much. stage 3 is the most unproductive stage. of course u still think about her, u still miss her. you start thinking better of yourself. life is bland. u want to call her. you're not doing much thinking but thinking about you and her.

stage 4 you realize that what she said about you was wrong. you hang with your buddies. you slowly start to be more active. maybe go back to the gym. be a bit more concerned about yourself.

stage 5 now you know that life isn't about her. it's about you and the matters of this world are much bigger than her. She's just a girl out of millions out there. of course she is still special because you guys were together and spent great times together. you know better for yourself. you start dressing nicer. better hygene. other girls start looking attractive. you start thinking of what you want to be in the future. focusing more on school

it may take weeks to years to move onto stage 5

final stage. you're officially single and out of the rebound stage. when you think about her, it's just good times that's all. you're working towards your future / career etc..

 

like i said, let it ride.

EVERY SINGLE ADVICE my friends gave me I never followed.
They told me not to EVER call her. well I called her millions of times (she didn't pick up). even worse I left messages. (If you leave any girl a message, you're basically give her your balls)

They told me to get rid of everything that reminds me of her.
F dat lol. i kept a few i guess.