blasts! ...i think ill avoid the boozebecause as donger said booze and depression are a bad idea... but rolling one up mgiht be a good idea. still havent decided on the weekend...not sure how we will act as we havnet seen eachtoher for a month..although i do get to drive my roomates vw r32 for the day and its a beautiful drive..id hate to waste the opportunity..ps wfo, your grandma seems like a smart woman

 

Find a constructive hobby you really like (working out,art, studying, smoking fatties) and let it be your focus. You will become content and gain peace of mind. When you truly become happy, some bitch will come by to take it all away from you. The cycle continues...

Oh and dont become friends w/ ur ex until u find a replacement girl. Preferably one thats hotter. Your feelings will be impervious by then.

 

yeah man, sorry to hear about your troubles. it sucks loosing a first love. i agree with others....the "just friends" thing is bullshit. chicks say that to make themselves feel better about it, but it will never work unless you are both completely over each other. until then, it will only be awkward.

 

it will only be awkward if you make it so. if you actually are able to control your feelings, which is hard to do, and treat her as a friend, it will make her feel better, but also will make you feel better because you will know you're in control of yourself and your actions and emotions. Thats not an easy thing to do, but the payoff is great. If you have something else to do this weekend, if it's going to be more eventful, do that instead of committing to her, because 'friends' don't have to always be there for 'friends', remember, thats how you two decided you wanted to be- friends. So if theres something else going on, you should probably hang out with other friends yet still treat her cordial. You'd be surprised how surprised she'd be by your actions, it will make it work out better for you in the short and long run, trust me.

 

You can't be "Just Friends" with her, trust me it will rip you up inside. I dealt with something similar earlier this year. Trust me just cut things off and move on, things WILL get better. I know things worked out for me. I am currently dating a girl that is SOOOO much better than my ex its not even funny.

Just keep your head up, and spend time with your boys. Your friends can and will be your greatest asset in getting past all this crap.

 

Thank to gosixers being +3 hours ahead of me, by the time I get around to Off-Topic in the morning, he's one step ahead of me.

. . . that said, you should also be banging nice girls too. . . well, they won't be that nice once you're done with them. . .

 

you guys are all so supportive.. im so proud of s2ki.. i feel the love ! *group hug

btw..forget the friend card untill you can handle it. you need to catch up on all that you missed out on in college! get it!

 

 

Two ways to go about this.

If you're strong enough at all, be friends. Keep it logical the whole time you're with her. Smile but don't let your ego override the knowledge that its over and it should be over. If she doesn't want to be with you you don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you! However don't hang out with her alone, only with mutual friends. If you go some place with her friends bring your own and don't pay any attention to her except the hello and by and whatever small talk comes from that. Don't let her see that it bothers you in anyway, just keep smilling. This is good because you'll find some of her friends will be interested in hooking up with you or hooking you up with there friends. You'll branch out/network here. They will also comment about how well you have it together to there buddies.

If that doesn't fit you then don't ever see her or talk with her until you can handle it.

In the end you'll be fine, it'll suck for a while and you're not special! We've all gone through it so don't let you talk yourself into I'm taking it harder than other people would or no one understands. We all do, like I said earlier, we've all been there before. It suxz but after a few months or so you'll be up and about on your feet again.

Good luck and don't get too depressed. If you do talk to someone even if it's just the members here on this site. Keep it together man, keep it together!

 

thanks guys honestly...ive pretty much decided im going up on sat. for some closure (and the drive on the merritt pkw)..i dont think im gonna try the friends card...ill see where it goes from there...but yeah..it sucks