Hey if you want to do a cheap wedding, then thats your thing. Others may want something more expensive and its within their right to do so. Its not your money afterall.

My wedding this past November wasn't cheap but it was worth every penny. A lifetime of precious memories is priceless.

 

Amazing how the emphasis os on the wedding and not the marriage.

Personally I think the life long memories should be about you and your spouse, not the lobster bisk or crystal champaign glasses.

Screw sharing it with the whole world, enjoy it yourselves.

 

I do want to make the wedding special, it is not a year of my salary, but for some it is, and unfortunately it is my money as well.

But on the upside, i am asian, and hopefully will recoup my costs pretty quickly.

Dave

 

But for the rest of us guests, the lobster bisque and champagne glasses are worth it

 

Thanks for clearing that up , I didn't know what the hell he was talking about

 

A friend's blog entry about wedding costs: (he's engaged)
http://lifeofsteve.blogs.com/life_of_steve...ective_on_.html

 

A colleague of mine (social worker) has the idea to set up a booth at local wedding shows to offer pre-marriage counselling services. Too often people don't think/talk about different aspects of their relationships (including how it might change after they are married) and then struggle to keep afloat. But hey at least they had a great party and got gifts.

 

I have been to weddings where the per guest cost was from $50 to over $200 a person.

I have never had food worth $50 at a wedding! The lobster is always overdone the shrimp are always soggy and in general the cheaper food is always as expected therefore it is better. Chewing on rubber lobster is worse than the typical prime rib at a buffet style wedding. Sure it's lobster but it tastes like a $200 rubber band.

Now as for the drinks at the wedding, well lets say if you invite me you got your moneys worth, especially if the couple leaves before last call.

Either way we didn't go to the wedding for the crappy food, only the drinks and to see the hot babes dance!

 

It seems that, on the real things in life, you and I agree often, of course to us its like common sense anyways, so I guess that isn't saying much.

 

I hope people getting married don't equate spending more money with more/better/longer-lasting memories. After attending a dozen over-decorated, over-dressed, over-planned weddings most guest won't remember one from another after a year.

You want more memories, do something memorable. A guy I worked with had his wedding at a nearby state park. There was a nice picnic, quiet ceremony, and everyone went mountain biking afterwards. That's memorable.

And no one who attended our low-budget outdoor ceremony will forget it either. Instead of a crisp early-October morning on the Mesa, it was a freakin' blizzard. There was abandoned historic church that we intended as a backdrop for the ceremony. Instead we "borrowed" the church (not locked) and had the ceremony indoors. It wasn't any warmer inside, but it was out of the wind. Aside from the weather, everyone also remembers our "Flower Dog" (and the post-ceremony dogfight).

The most important thing though, have the sort of wedding that you want. Always wanted a big church wedding with a high-dollar reception, then go for it. But don't let anyone talk you into more than you really want or can afford.

Best Wishes,
-Bob