Hell, don't listen to that guy. If your Dad wants to buy you stuff, let him. Enjoy it. If you get tired of it, send him over to me. I'll put myself up for adoption.

 

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Get rid of her. You're 18. I'm 21 and I feel I wouldn't be able to put up with a girl at this young age telling me that my hobbies are taking away time we might spend together.

 

Dude people are going to be jeolous of your situation. I have no idea if you're a ard worker or what not. The fact that you are in school and working is enough for me to cut you some slack, just ignore the morons.


This is not pointed at you, just a general statement to reply to F1 fans


In general, I would say any girl that moves in with a <25 year old guy is just plain stupid. Now that doesn't mean if you're a male <25 that you're and idiot or immature, there are exceptions to every rule, but in general men are pretty immature until we hit 26-27 sometimes until 30 and rarely even older than that. This dude is 18 WTF? Obviously this girl is missing some brain cells. He sounds mature, probably polite, but he's in school. He doesn't have a career yet. He does come from a upper middle class + family (well thats what I'm assuming). Yet she's dumb enough to miss the obvious. That there is a lot of ground to cover before getting that serious. I think she's the idiot, he's just a dude that stayed true to his love for her. Now he realises this might not be a good relationship for him.

 

I'm going to go the opposite way here, granted these aren't the pioneering times, but I think as a whole, society is a bunch of whiney spoiled bitches, all about me me me, what I want, what I can buy, etc.

It wasn't that long ago where people met, fell in love, started a family and worked there asses off to provide the best for that family. 18 is a little young for that, however if you said you were early 20's I'd definatly give this more weight.

I don't want to get to off topic with this, but your defence about your Dad wanting to get you these things makes little sense. First off your Dad should spend his money more wisely, secondly, you should tell your Dad if he wants to spend some money, to put it in a GIC, or some other shit so you can save up and buy a house.

From your chicks point of view, I have little doubt that she sees your toys as an infringment on your time, dare I say an infringment on your future.

I'm only 32 now, but I've been through more then most people twice my age, I dumped my GF to sew my wild oats, I banged chicks left and right, I made lots of my own money when I was young, and took that money and started my own business, living large, spending like a fool, and risking VD at any bar open past midnight.

Dude, I'm not saying I'm right about this, only you can decide how you want to live your life, but I can tell you for the most part, I've gone backwards in my life, and it sucks. I've seen my friends, married and happy ( mostly ) and I see the influence thier wive's GF's etc have on them. They may do thier share of bitching, but everyone admits, and they never miss an opprotunity to tell me, how it's thier wife that drives them to success, its them that forces them to work that little bit harder, to save that extra dollar, to pass up that sports car for one more year, so that they can enjoy thier life together with out the troubles that can befall you in life. You're 18 and your Dad pays your way. Trust me, life is not that rosey sometimes, one day you might just realize that most women are alot more responsible then men, and that they have far more to offer then sex. If you don't you can spend a lot of time living a certain lifestyle that is hard to break

All that writing prompted becuase you had to ask here instead of talking it over with your GF about your feelings and what both of you want out of the relationship.

You want my short advice? Don't listen to what a bunch of people here, that have no idea what your real situation is, are saying. Talk to her and make a decision.

 

You are 18 years old, why would you want a ball and chain already?

This has bad ending written all over it.

 

Well my goodness, I didn't realize you were degreed in adolescent psychology! I have no idea how old you are or what your life experiences are either, so don't assume to know what the "real deal" is here too.

As a women who has been around the block, plus married and back again (my decision), I can only agree with you on one point: this is not a good relationship, for EITHER or them. Whether or not BOTH people are idiots is merely opinion.

 

The majority of people in central and western PA get tied down early before developing the necessary communication skills to keep a relationship alive. I was one of those people
Talk with your girl about your feelings. If you can't compromise you shouldn't be in the relationship.

 

if youve been dating her for 3 years now you would have realised she doesnt like you buying things that take away from her. she probably feels as if shes not exciting enough and that you dont want to spend time with her, so you have to accept these toys from your dad to stay entertained while she sits on the sides. i dont think it has anything to do with material objects or necessarily the time spent, it has more to do with her feelings. wit down and talk with her, i the future if your still togeather, i suggest take a week and spiler her with more time than shes knows what to do with, take a sick day and tel her you wanna spend the day with her before she goes to work at noon, after you spoil her, let her know your dad wants to get you a bike, but that you want to make sure it is ok with her first, and make sure she knows your only going to be riding it when shes on the back. chances are she wont care and wont complian at that point.

 

I agree with Mindcore 100%

my girlfriend lets me have "me" time, but if it wasn't for her, my life would be empty outside family and religion

You can always buy a car and new toy but they get old quick. A girl I would never get old with because there is always more to life than riding on the roads...

I'm 21 btw.