So I have this friend, I swear not me, who is thinking of dumping his girlfriend. Long story short, this girl recently lost her job, fell down some stairs and has had a string of little bad streaks. He's breaking up with her not because of these incidences but has been thinking about it for 5 months now. It's her birthday coming up and my friend was wondering whether he should tell her it's over before or after her bday? I said before so that she doesn't start her new bday with such bad news. I also feel it's best to do it now since so much crap has already happened that she won't think much??? Anyway, your thoughts?

 

WOW, after thanksgiving but before christmas. So basically after or before her birthday doesn't really matter unless her birthday is after thanksgiving. Then i would say at least w eek before her birthday. EItherway if he is going to break up with her he better just do it and not back peddle at all. He has to make a clean and 100% cut, no phone calls or anything.

 

I say do it on Christmas Eve. Merry Christmas and oh BTW, I'm breaking with you.

 

1. If he has been thinking about it for 5 months he's an idiot.
2. To break-up with someone during the holidays is truly asinine, the suicide rate for this time of year is off the charts.
3. My advice: let her down easy on New Years Eve, use the excuse of a New Years Resolution to better himself or something stupid like that, it'll give her a chance to feel like she's starting fresh as well. If she balks, have him tell her that he's been contemplating it for a while, but he wanted to be sure, and didn't want to put a bad spot on the holidays. Women appreciate things like this, and I'm sure he would as well if he were in the same situation.

The way I see it, he owes her that for stringing her along for 5 months.

 

we all know hes just trying to avoid buying her a gift

 

"Yes sweetheart, you see, I want to better myself and you stand in the way of making that happen. You are loser like boat anchor."

That's sure letting her down easy.




Just end it now with honesty.

 

The sooner it's over, the sooner both of them can move on. He should just end up now and get it over and done with.

 

I gotta disagree on point #3, especially if they have big plans on NYE. Nevermind that in point #2 you say it's 'asinine' to break up with someone during the holidays and in the next point you suggest doing exactly that I would certainly not appreciate a guy breaking up with me on a night like New Years.

There really is no 'good time' to break up. Tactful honesty is always the way to go IMO.

 

 

He needs to just tell her the truth..

"Look.. you care about me and I don't feel the same. I want to have sex with other girls because you really aren't any good. Sorry, but it's the truth."

Then tap her on the butt and say "Good Game".