What can I do to convince my soon-to-be wife to let me get another convertible?
What would you do?

Here's my problem. I went test driving recently (2-days ago). I won't mention what car, but it's sub $50k convertible. I really like it. Even got a really good deal on it. So, the last thing I did was ask my girl to come down for a test drive. She rode shotgun. We were only driving for about 5 minutes or so, and next thing you know she gets teary-eyed. I asked her what was wrong, and she states she's scared. All the terrible memories from the accident when I totalled the S came back at that moment, and now she's asking/begging me not to get it.

I really want it. What do I do?
What would you do?

Yes, she means more to me than the car, but I really like the car.
Yes, I'll get over it soon and will grow up soon enough, but I really like the car.
And worst of all, just because she doesn't want me to get the car, I want it even more...

Thanks for letting me vent, but also, what can I do?

 

You saw "Mighty Ducks" right? Duck tape her to the seat and drive through some twisties till she gets over it.

Seriously though, it's just a car...What makes you happier?

 

Well thats a damn good reason NOT to get it.

 

I don't know any details of your accident, but why would a new convertible remind her of the accident? Did the fact that the car you wrecked was a convertible play a part in your accident (such as an injury)? I guess I don't understand why the car you want would bother her and an Accord presumably wouldn't.

In the absence of a logical reason why she's afraid of the convertible and if the new car wouldn't be a primary vehicle, then I'd probably get it. I can empathize with someone being afraid, but some fears aren't reasonable and should be dealt with. If the accident was horrific, then I wouldn't push her.

 

Dude,
If you go against her, she won't be happy.
Not that you're weak but in any relationship, you have to yield a little. When a woman cries because she's afraid for me, I'll yield. It's not like she cries b/c you won't buy her a larger diamond ring or a $5000 mink coat. She cries for you. She sounds like a keeper.

 

yeah, part of marriage and relationship is about being considerate of your significant other's needs and concerns. if the more she doesn't want you to have to something, the more you want to have it, then you really should do her a favor and not marry her, because with that attitude you will just in the long run drive her up the wall and make her utterly miserable and regret having married you. but aside from that, i think deep inside your gf fears the way you will drive behind the wheels of a sporty car. if you seriously love this girl and want to spend your life with her, you really should consider toning down, if not changing your style and habbit of driving all together. it's really not fair for her to have to worry everynight over whether you will make it home safely, if at all. and it certainly is not cool to prematurely make your wife a widow and if and when you have kids, make your kids fatherless. just something to think about...

 

Sounds like she wouldnt be your soon-to-be wife, if you ask me.

Get the Car!!

 

Accidents can happen in any vehicle, not just convertibles. I remember reading about your accident & seeing the pictures. I can understand her fears, but she's got to realize that something like that can happen at any time, at any place, and in any car. She shouldn't stop you from getting it.

 

Does the car that you want come in a non-covertible model? Maybe a little compromise won't hurt. (Happens to me all the time)

You wouldn't want your wife to be always worried when you are driving a convertible. I'm sure you understand her point if you were in her shoes.

 

Show her the safety features of the car like any Traction control, stability control, safety rating, etc.... Take a safe driver course, etc... Show her you do understand her fears and promise that you'll be more careful in the future.

I just picked up my second S two days ago and it took me a long time to convince my wife. I also had an accident two years ago. No injuries but the car suffered $24K of damages and was in a really bad shape. She never wanted me to get another S but I kept trying to convince her that since the car saved my life by taking all the hit, it actually is a much safer car than other cars. e.g. if I were in a civic it could have been much worst.

Good luck with the the car and/or girl