Title says it all. Does anyone know the way to figure out the proper amount to spend?

Thanks in advance.

 

A friend of yours is getting married? For the past few friends of mine, I've ended up getting a good quality knife or two. Sounds strange for a wedding, and I've even heard it's bad luck - it is a weapon after all. But for people just starting out, a good knife in the kitchen is supremely useful. It ends up being about fifty bucks or so.

 

It depends on what you can afford, how well you know the couple, how well you like the couple, and so on.

I'd say $50 - $100 is reasonable, and you could stretch the lower or upper limit as you feel necessary.

 

In my case, the bride is a good friend of mine.

Does it matter that I have to fly across the country to NYC?

The flight and hotel rooms are killing me...who said friendship is cheap?

 

Is it ok to give cash to a non traditional wedding?

 

In Asian weddings, it's about 100 bucks a head.

 

check out their registry, too. that way you don't get them something they don't need. But I would say if you are going that far for their wedding, you are good enough friends for a 50-100 dollar gift. If they were a friend that you wouldn't really care if they showed up to their wedding, I'd say 50 or a little under.
Some people would say it's sucky if someone is spending 75 bucks a head for inviting people to their wedding and then you give them a 50 dollar gift, but no where is it written that you should come out ahead after getting married. And this is coming from me, who is paying for my wedding later this year.

 

Cash is always OK, right? It was in Goodfellas, wasn't it?

 

Cash = best

<$100 = cheap

If your friendship means <$100 to you then don't go to the wedding!

Now if your out of work that's a different story.

If you have to travel 50,000 miles etc then they might just be glad you could make it but $100 still isn't a lot. you should swallow it because they are your friends.

 

Keep in mind many NY Wedding perfer $$CASH$$, it's very expensive to get married and have a wedding, most couples will perfer the $ for their honey moon.

Now if you want to just give a gift, check out their gift registry, which i am sure they might be like at Macy*s. If she's a good friend anywhere between $50 - $100. Whatever you can afford. It's suppose to come from the heart and not the pocket.