I'm 17, and i'm just begginng. I'm a little more social and i'm not afraid of people anymore. But i still can't start conversations or talk to girls, especially if they're hot.

I just wanted to know when u guys came out of your shells, so i can compare.

 

heh I know what u mean man, I'm 19 and I'm still pretty shy. Usually I act pretty stupid in front of a new girl sometimes, which isn't good cause it just gives bad first impressions. Doh! Well anyways its good to see ur opening up, as shyness gets you nowhere. But most of all, the best thing to do is be yourself and have fun.

 

I'm not a guy, but I finally got out of the shyness thing when I went away to college. There was something about being able to reinvent myself that was very liberating! I'm finding that after 8 years of LTR/marriage/divorce, I'm back to being kind of shy (painfully at times) and not knowing precisely what to do sometimes, but it's also a totally different dating world now at 31 than it was at 21!

Asimo, if you believe in yourself and carry yourself as if you do, it will help with the shyness thing A LOT!

 

I think in first grade. I kissed this girl next to me on the cheek. We were sitting in a circle. From then on...
Im pretty ballsy i guess when it comes to girls. I would go up and start talking to them like its nothing.
Public speaking was never a problem for me in school.
Just have some self-esteem and everything will be easy.

 

I kissed a girl my second day of kindergarten ( at 4IGS2000 )! That said, I'm relatively shy (I'm also married, though, so I needn't worry about having to strike up conversations with women constantly, outside of work occasionally) but as 4IGS2000 said, self-esteem is a big factor. Be confident (but not cocky) and things tend to flow a little more smoothly. If you aren't trying to actually "act", but rather be yourself, it will take off some of the pressure and nervousness.

Good luck!

 

like sondra s2k, i "broke out" when i went off to college (after the 1st year though). prior to that, i was outgoing only with friends. whenever i was in a situation where there were more new women than friends around, all i did was look around and listen.


good luck...and yeah, confidence is the key. better said that done though...

just wait and it'll come to you. when it does, it'll be a smooth transition!

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by 4IGS2000
[B]I think in first grade.

 

, I'm 28 and I'm still really shy.

 

I had this great Tennis coach "Tony" (ya ya, tennis is for fags) in 11th and 12th grade... he was totally obnoxious but never swore or drank.... but he was a total asshole pig besides that..... so.... somewhere in there I patterned my entire life after him...not really, but he sure helped me act like a dillhole!

Scot

 

I dont remember my age, but it coincedently was the same day I finally realized I couldn't give a rats crap what people thought about me.

Like me, hate me, think I'm an ass, greatest guy on the planet..whatever.. I'm just myself.

Everyone is shy, even after my first statement, if I broke wind on a first date, I'd turn red..but the first step in overcoming shyness is your self confidence..

Find that, and the rest is easy