parents are always saying that they work hard to give their children a better life or give the kids a life/things that they never had.

so take the scenario: parents have worked regularly and have built a strong foundation financially for the family. child goes to school, graduates from college and is deciding what to do next. based on what the parents had hoped for by them working hard, they wouldn't want their kid to necessarily get a job and work like normal. but then if you were to meet that kid who didn't work regularly, many would think of them as lazy/spoiled or fill in the blank. sometimes, if the kid doesn't suffer enough, the parents might even turn on the kid, contradicting their initial mission statement. but if the kid works hard and suffers (as many workers do) aren't they wasting all the hard work that the earlier generations have put in?

of course the easy solution is for the kid to work some job that they like and it doesn't need to earn much money, but that's kinda boring. what do u think and how would you handle it if the choice was yours (and if you chose to not work hard, how would you respond to people who critisize u)?

 

I have parents who chose to have me not work and concentrate on school. I'm still in college right now and I turned out okay. It still depends on the child's ambition. If he/she has none, he/she will still amount to nothing much. There's too many variables in the parenting technique to justify one answer to this question. This topic is one for a sociology class essay.

I'm actually not quite clear of the content of your question. What are the categories? Parents work hard: 1. but child amounts to a paper pusher and parents are angry for mediocre career 2. and child succeeds and parents are happy 3. and child amounts to a sub-par career which he loves and parents are happy that the child is happy but continues to worry about child's future financial state

 

the scenario is complex and i'm not expecting to hear an amazingly educated response. rather, just curious about what people would do if they were the "child" in the situation. being in college does not count. question clearly states, finished college.

 

You mean, if they were the child in the situation, would they choose to please their parents with a mundane but stable career or pursue their interests, whether it to brings fortune or not?

 

Damned if you do and damned if you don't. You can't win!

Since I had to earn everythign I have, I always hate when I hear about people whose parents handed them everything. The kid may be a great person but if your parents hand you everything all your life...

On the flip side, I would love to help my own sons...... luckily there is another 6-10-12 years before this is going to need attention.

Like you said, what is the point of earning all that $ and then not giving it away and watching your kids enjoy life? I think lots of people wait until they die to bequeth the $, but then you can't watch them enjoy it (unless you have a webcam that plays to the gates of hell. ). Of course the kids become spoiled a-holes if you give them too much.

I would help my kids financially if they were doing something that they were passionaite about and didn't make much $, or doing some kind of social work type job.

 

shut up man....what's wrong with you?

 

why don't you go buy a bigger tv????

matha fu-cka

 

perhaps we should ask your mom?

 

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(nothing like whoring up another thread... )

 

It all depends on how the parents spend the money on their kids.

Giving your kids what you didn't have growing up can mean a lot of things. I think of it more like paying college tuition or helping with rent when they get their first apartment until they have a stable income. I do not see it as giving them cars and toys that they shouldn't be able to afford.

I guess I see good in buying the kid a fishing rod, not buying him fish.