I'm kind of self-conscious about the way I look.

I know I'm not ugly but.... I went to go get a hair cut at my mother's salon (yea..i know...) and the women there kept on giving me random compliments. "Wow, you're really good looking, etc." That made my day. My mom's friends think so too nd persistently try to hook me up with their daughters.

Here's the thing. Some of my friend, I don't know if they are joking or not, go "Damn you're ugly..." I go, "WTF?"

I'm not the best looking guy in the world but i know I'm not that bad looking either. But apparently, some of my guy friends keep on giving me this $h!t. Now this ruins my confidence with girls for I know girls my age tend to go for the guy that is better looking then the guy that will make them happy. It's happened to me once and it just ruined my summer as well as my relationship with girls. LIke...just the other night..I'm sitting there having a nice cup of beer w/ my friends and we got into a conversation (damn me if I remember) but my friend pointed at me and went "At least you're not ugly like Bryan." I'm just sitting there butt hurt. I may get all the compliments in the world about how good looking I am from strangers, but if my close friend goes "You're ugly" then I just mope for the rest of the time w/ him. Now do you guys normally do that too? LIke, as a JOKE sometimes i refer to my friend and call him ugly even though girls think of him as attractive. It's meant as a joke and a joke only. I guess he can take it better but I always end up saying "just kidding".

But with me, they don't say "just kidding" or anything like that. Do they really mean it? Or are they just pulling my leg? Do you guys tend to joke around like that even though you GUYS don't mean it? This is really bothering me because a friend of mine is trying to set me up with this nice girl and you know...I need a little self confidence. A lot of guys actually tend to refer to me as ugly. Are they just jealous or do they actually mean it? Advice? Opinion?

Confused.

Bryan

 

I'm willing to bet they are just joking. My friends and I do it all the time. Only it's not about being ugly it's about being gay---not that there's anything wrong with that (LOL, Seinfeld rules). As hard as it may be try not to let it get to ya. Besides, as bad as it may seem you still haven't received Playgirl for an April Fool's joke yet but that's another story

 

Yea...but it kills me to know that they MIGHT mean it...as in they are thinking it...so when they joke..that's the first thing that comes to mind....

I guess im getting kinda paranoid but....it's killing me...my confidence is shot to hell...

 

rent a Ferrari for an hour, drive it down the main street where you live and you'll have all the confidence you need

On a serious note though I honestly think they are kidding but they just don't know that it bothers you. There are two outcomes if you tell them how you feel. 1. They honestly care how you feel and will stop or 2. They honestly care how you feel and will exploit it even more. With my friends chances are they'd go with #2. My advice would be try to get some more confidence and don't worry so much about the looks. I would much rather date a semi-good looking girl that has confidence than a gorgeous girl who has to be told every 5 minutes that she's attractive.

 

they are just joking and jealous about you.


.....no matter what is the truth...just think that way.

Confidence, my friend, confidence is very important...

and I really think they are just joking and jeolous about you.

for me and my friend, friends won't said "you are ugly" to a really ugly friend. but they will like to said that to the most good looking friend. (which is why they always said that to me. )

anyways, just go find some girls (important: need more than 1) to hand around you then they will either stop said that "you are ugly" or prove they are just joking by saying that.

 

I don't know what your relationship is like with your buddies, but if it bothers you, say something. And my core group of friends bust on each other for everything. Looks, job, money, etc. Everything is fair game, but they are jokes. I have had my friends make jokes about things that I finally didn't find funny anymore and I told them to knock it off, and they did. Its about respect, I would think your friends would respect you, so if you don't like it, speak up.

ERIK

 

Hey, don't get so down on yourself buddy. We all know how guys are, even if they don't say "just kidding" I'd think they are really just kidding.

My guy friends make fun of me all the damn time about all sorts of things ... but I don't care because I know I'm a "looker"

You are who you are ... even if your friends ARE serious, who cares man? You can't live life doing things that other people tell you to do and you can't let someone ruin your confidence by something they say. Laugh it off and KNOW that you're better than that and that's all that matters. Being truly confident starts by what you feel inside about yourself, not from what others say to you.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by mrkim019
[B]I'm kind of self-conscious about the way I look.

 

Dude, most guys can't tell an ugly guy from a good-looking one, so they're probably just full of S... Stop worrying about what anyone else thinks - INCLUDING WOMEN - and just focus on being the best person you can be. Not the best looking, or the best basketball player, or the best driver, the best person that you can be.


Oh yeah, and -
My advice would be to get some new friends...

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by integrate
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The same thing with the salon happens me to...weird.