So I know most girls will admit, there is a good faction of the gender who always makes sure to surround themselves with less attractive friends. The benefits are pretty obvious... you feel better about yourself, you don't feel as much pressure to look your best around them, you get all the attention when out together, and even the contrast can make you look better in groups...

I never really thought about guys doing this, until a girl friend pointed out that I seem to be guilty... not just in one group, but in all of them. If I am, it was always subconcious until just recently. I actually am starting to catch myself excluding a fairly cool friend-of-a-friend because I don't enjoy him drawing more attention from females.

I don't want to think I'm just so narcissistic that I'm the only male on the planet who does this...

 

one word: insecurity!!

 

hmm...interesting. I'm positive I don't do that with my guy friends simply because I never think about how they look when I originally become friends with them.

I do have a different situation though. As my best friend [a female] pointed out, the vast majority of my female friends tend to fairly attractive. I guess that's what drew me to them in the first place. Don't wanna seem overly superficial or anything because I don't take that into factor in choosing friends, but I guess I do that subconsciously.

 

I used to be awful in that sense... looking at my strictly platonic girl friends, you could tell I only strike up conversations with those I find attractive. I've sort of gone the other way after high school though, since I realized having attractive female friends always poses a problem with anyone you start dating. So, now I generally only make friends with girls I find less attractive- so future gf's don't give me so much crap.

 

I thought this was a myth...

 

Talk about shallow...

 

I think it was the opposite with me. The birds always flocked to the face men I hung out with and went home with the smooth talker (me) instead

 

 

Guys? Not the ones I hang with. We don't say boo about how each other look or dress. Man Law.

 

I have never thought about it with my friends. It's actually the opposite. If someone is super ugly or just not cool then you don't wanna be hittin the clubs with them. Besides that, I see people for who they are not just how they look. you can take a person that isn't so cool and show them the ropes, but you can't take someone with an ugly heart and fix them.

I usually make it a point to hang out with people that are cooler, smarter, better than me at whatever. That way I'm always learning new things and my perception of life is always growing. Plus it keeps my ego in check.