My wife is from California, I'm from Canada - we knew mutual friends but had never met. We talked online for six months, met up, married a few years later, and are about to celebrate our third wedding anniversary. We have a little girl about to turn nine months old and are about as happy as anyone can get.

By the way, wannabuy, I would agree in your assessment of most NORTH AMERICAN (not just USA) females. It's very tough to find one that will just help you out in the marriage as opposed to try and decide what she does and doesn't want, then acts accordingly. Anyone who goes into marriage looking to change everything or get their way is doomed to a failed relationship.

 

How in the hell do people come up with these conclusions? Just because the people you have met in your circle of people, hardly means a large percentage of women are money hungry bitches that want to change you. I have met many men that destroy their partner mentally by being demeaning and uncaring. That's a form of control, and yes, change.

I'm not saying it isn't hard to find someone that really clicks with you and you want to spend all your time with. But the generalities are unfair and quite annoying.

ERIK

 

I think that the stereotype of "that most (99%) of the women to chose from are very money grubbing, want to change you, high maintanence pieces of garbage" is a drastic overgeneralization. Perhaps you were in the wrong circle and meeting the wrong women? I don't claim to be an expert on the field of women, but in my personal experience, there are and continue to be quality women out there that hold values that American women "used to."


You say that you value your awesome career, and rightfully so as you have come a long way from your upbringing and I commend you for that. You wanted a wife that valued the same things. I think that nowadays (more so than in the 50s), women ARE valuing their careers more and more. Not all American women are "high maintenance and don't respect things anymore." I think that in general, our culture nurtures us to be "high maintenance" as we are barraged with commercialism and emphasis on materialism on a daily basis. But as stated earlier, there are quality women out there that aren't as "high maintenance" and are quite respectful.

But I digress - as this topic is not a poll soliciting opinion on American women vs. foreign women, I will veer back on-topic. I've personally not dabbled or had any interest in pursuing an international wife. But I'm very glad to hear that it's working out for you, and I wish you the best and a lifetime of happiness for you and your wife, and possibly future young ones.

 

wannabuy,

I don't see any problem with going overseas to pick a bride.

People in the USA might call it desperate and find it weird; but likewise, people in some other countries might wonder why we in America bend over backwards to find a spouse and go through such a complicated relationship-courtship ritual, when there are plenty of attractive brides for the picking.

To a large extent, it's a matter of cultural norms. With these types of things, there are no absolutes, there are only cultural values and norms. In the USA, we tend to have a romanticized version of falling in love and getting married. In other countries, a far more pragmatic view prevails.

I do agree with some of the other posters in that your view of American women is a bit general, and neither reflects all American women nor American women specifically. But by the same token, some of the other posters have levied very unfair blanket statements at you as well. To call someone pathetic and desperate simply because they don't share the same idea of love seems rather narrow-minded.

Btw, I know a few people who have done this, and I know some other folks who have wedded via arranged marriages. I also know some people who married simply to enter the USA. Some succeeded magnificently, and others failed miserably. Like with all other marriages, it might work and it might not. It really isn't that different.

Good luck man...

 

I am glad to see the conversation is staying peaceful. Thank You. I live in an area where materialism is very dominate. Who has the bigger and better this and that. I dated a dew women that had great values but had other issues to contend with. I am glad that I am one of the lucky few to have a great wife. I wish the same to anyone else. I agree that dating and marriage is really a gamble. You never knwo how it is going to turn out. Lots of hard work and respect for each goes a long way. I have seen marriages last 20 years and then just go sour. Over-seas marriages usually are people over 35 and average salary over 80k. I will say maybe I over generalized a negative opinio of women here in the USA but from the pickens I had it didn't look good. I didn't want to travel 3 hours for a long range relationship and then I turn around and went half way around the world.

 

Can I order a bride from every country on earth? J/K!