Thanks S2-Raw, for the longest time I wanted to be with him again, but I think its time now that we just focus on being "Just Friends" He said that he would be sad to see me with another guy and I would feel the same if he was with another girl...I mean c'mon i'd probably beat her up!!!! But I know thats wrong, i'm just a jealous person when it comes to other girls.....Thats just me. I have too many other things going on with me right now and this whole thing with my EX is really tearing me up.
Thanks for everyones advice!
~*~Julie~*~

 

Sorry to hear....been there way to many times and it is no fun!!! I've almost a few times thought about just going "solo" as to protect myself from that ever happening again. But that at times is no fun either and you end up missing out on the enjoyment another person gives you. Take time for yourself. Thats what I did, while it may be lonely at times, it will build strength and charactor and you will be more selective next time as you will KNOW what you want and what you dont want. The is a strange thing, sometimes it does not match up to what your brain is saying and they BOTH need to be telling you the same thing. The heart will mask your brain as emotions are very powerfull, so follow your gut and your head, its worked for me.....so far anyways.

As far as your situation now goes.......take a break and clear your head.

Good Luck!

 

Staying Friends is cool, but don't give him mixed signals by staying over, even if he asks, you either like him or you don't right?? Anyways, give it a little time.. it's weird that he'd bitch at you for no reason...

 

Julie:
Sounds like my ex at one point!
Sounds like he's one of those guy's that want a bit of both. He know's you still have strong feelings for him, and he uses that to his advantage. He can still have you around, and does not need to "miss" you like he would if you two were completely "not together". And at the same time, he can have you too, but acting like those feelings the two of you shared is still actually existing now, when it's really not. BUT, when things get abit inconvenient for him, then he puts on this "don't have to deal with this" attitude to you.
Am I confusing you yet? What I did was.....just call it quits completely. No half boyfriend and girlfriend, and definitely no, part time sleeping buddy either. The two of you are not together, and that is the way it should be. This way, he can stay to respect you, miss you, and realize what he had. He'll never know what he had when he still sort of has it. Get it?

Later on, you'll realize how you feel right now? He wasn't worth all this hurt and turmoil.
I worshipped my ex long after we weren't together. Even went through the not together, but sometimes together stage like how you two seem to be in. I missed him so much too,....but I thought him having me around whenever he wanted was a very selfish act. When he missed me, I would be totally there for him, and when I missed him....well, he would sweet talk to me and remind me how we're better not together than we were together

Move on Julie.....and if u really need to be reminded to stay strong...you can always PM me!! I'll set you straight!

Love yourself...and forget those that can't see who you are

 

Wow Julie, I really symphatize with you. But seriously, there's been a lot of good advice that I've seen on here. Learn from it, as I know that these people, especially the women on here, have been or are in your shoes right now. It seems to be that this guy was your first, in many ways. That in itself makes everything that much harder. About the guy acting like a 5 yr. old, I think that he only responded that way because you probably offended him in some way, and he's not really mature enough to know how he should respond back. And from a guy's point of view, sometimes guys just want to chill and really hate all the drama. Don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying you're drama Julie. I'm just saying, make sure you guys are really trying to solve something, instead of offending each other. If you guys have really been that close, I'm sure you know what buttons to push, and vice versa for him. That's not the right way of going about things. Also, I agree with everybody else, either you're together, or you're not. Don't give him the satisfaction of having his cake and eating it too. Damn, he's lucky!!! Getting some, without strings

 

JMC1971, NO it's not the same guy I was buying a present for it's another one, someone more special. I just want to clear that up.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR ALL THE ADVICE!!!!!
I am seriously feeling much, much better, and I think it is better to be on my own for a while. I know I can't keep being this way, and keep wanting him, I sometimes feel like he is interested in someone else. But i'm not for certain, I am definatly not going to have him use me for whenever he wants a piece of me, I never thought of it like that but now that some of you have brought it up I am thinking about that. I need to move on, but its really hard considering that I gave him my heart and trust and then feeling like he's toying with it.
Thank you all for writing back!!!!
Take Care!
~*~Julie~*~

 

Forget the Boyfriend, are you okay after getting hit by a car ???

 

Julie!

I think you should let go of him. If it hurts you so much being together with the one you love, you should move on. I'm still in love with my exboyfriend but whenever we're together he does something that hurts me. He says he's sorry everytime but - LOVE MEANS NEVER TO HAVE TO SAY YOU'RE SORRY!!!

 

Julie, Like we say down in the tropics :"New Year, New Life!". In the long run it is more important to be happy more of the time than extremely happy a small part of the time.

Take time off from him. Go to different places. Do different things.

 

Hey,
Well I haven't talked to him in a while and i'm feeling a little better, I still miss him alot though. But like Cashout said:
"New year, New life!"
Moving on is the first step and i'm about to take it...
Thanks!!!
~*~Julie~*~