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less attractive women
another crudely written thread to increase my ever growing popularity.
some female friends asked me this stuff and it made me curious myself. how does it usually work for the avg joe? is a woman's attractiveness like a gradient or an on/off switch (ie: is it either you find her attractive or not OR is it like you dont find her attractive, but if she likes you then you might become into her)?
and if it is like an on/off switch, how does it work for less attractive women? is it that someone doesn't really want them, but the guy settles cuz they don't want to be alone? or is it like they aren't attractive, but when you get to know their personality, they become attractive? with the realistic ratios of attractive people out there, you have to wonder how many couples are really attracted to each other in the traditional sense. esp given that if you yourself are not great looking, it doesn't stop you from genuinely wanting someone who IS very attractive.
another question was asked that if a girl has a great personality, but just not physically attractive (even repulsive), can anything be done to overcome the obstacle?
and please, throw in a smart ass gay joke if you're feelin original.
some female friends asked me this stuff and it made me curious myself. how does it usually work for the avg joe? is a woman's attractiveness like a gradient or an on/off switch (ie: is it either you find her attractive or not OR is it like you dont find her attractive, but if she likes you then you might become into her)?
and if it is like an on/off switch, how does it work for less attractive women? is it that someone doesn't really want them, but the guy settles cuz they don't want to be alone? or is it like they aren't attractive, but when you get to know their personality, they become attractive? with the realistic ratios of attractive people out there, you have to wonder how many couples are really attracted to each other in the traditional sense. esp given that if you yourself are not great looking, it doesn't stop you from genuinely wanting someone who IS very attractive.
another question was asked that if a girl has a great personality, but just not physically attractive (even repulsive), can anything be done to overcome the obstacle?
and please, throw in a smart ass gay joke if you're feelin original.
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Originally Posted by dyhppy,Apr 27 2008, 11:12 PM
another crudely written thread to increase my ever growing popularity.
some female friends asked me this stuff and it made me curious myself. how does it usually work for the avg joe? is a woman's attractiveness like a gradient or an on/off switch (ie: is it either you find her attractive or not OR is it like you dont find her attractive, but if she likes you then you might become into her)?
and if it is like an on/off switch, how does it work for less attractive women? is it that someone doesn't really want them, but the guy settles cuz they don't want to be alone? or is it like they aren't attractive, but when you get to know their personality, they become attractive? with the realistic ratios of attractive people out there, you have to wonder how many couples are really attracted to each other in the traditional sense. esp given that if you yourself are not great looking, it doesn't stop you from genuinely wanting someone who IS very attractive.
another question was asked that if a girl has a great personality, but just not physically attractive (even repulsive), can anything be done to overcome the obstacle?
and please, throw in a smart ass gay joke if you're feelin original.
some female friends asked me this stuff and it made me curious myself. how does it usually work for the avg joe? is a woman's attractiveness like a gradient or an on/off switch (ie: is it either you find her attractive or not OR is it like you dont find her attractive, but if she likes you then you might become into her)?
and if it is like an on/off switch, how does it work for less attractive women? is it that someone doesn't really want them, but the guy settles cuz they don't want to be alone? or is it like they aren't attractive, but when you get to know their personality, they become attractive? with the realistic ratios of attractive people out there, you have to wonder how many couples are really attracted to each other in the traditional sense. esp given that if you yourself are not great looking, it doesn't stop you from genuinely wanting someone who IS very attractive.
another question was asked that if a girl has a great personality, but just not physically attractive (even repulsive), can anything be done to overcome the obstacle?
and please, throw in a smart ass gay joke if you're feelin original.
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Really? Personal experience being relevant here, you've never found yourself attracted to someone only after knowing them for awhile? I knew my second girlfriend since the second grade. I got together with her in eighth grade, mainly because one day I all of a sudden saw her in a different light. I did break up with her because she for some reason cut her hair shorter than mine. She looked like a boy after that.
and please, throw in a smart ass gay joke if you're feelin original.
and please, throw in a smart ass gay joke if you're feelin original.
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from my 30 years of life, I've noticed all women crave attention, ugly or attractive. who doesn't want a good looking mate?! you have to be retarded if you say any different!
I would have to say, I'm average at best, but I have dated HOT girls before and it's all the same once the lusting after them goes away. I guess when you're "just" dating it doesn't matter too much, but when I decide to settle down, I'd like someone thats average looking with a great personality. afterall looking at something nice is great, BUT "feeling" great is even better.
BTW I'll NEVER date an UGLY girl.
you still have to look at her. 
I would have to say, I'm average at best, but I have dated HOT girls before and it's all the same once the lusting after them goes away. I guess when you're "just" dating it doesn't matter too much, but when I decide to settle down, I'd like someone thats average looking with a great personality. afterall looking at something nice is great, BUT "feeling" great is even better.
BTW I'll NEVER date an UGLY girl.
you still have to look at her.
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looks are only part of the equation. pretty heavily weighted when you first meet someone, but then after that, personality starts to overtake.
it doesn't matter if she's the hottest girl i've ever seen, but if she is not funny, airheaded, sucks in bed (i don't mean literally), has no talents, etc, there's no way i will keep dating her.
and on the other hand maybe there's a girl i only find slightly attractive in looks, if i come to realize that wow, she is f'in cool as hell then my desire to go out with her will go up a lot, more so than if i just thought she was really hot.
i will admit, unfortunately, that fat is one thing that is very hard for me to get by. main reasons being i'm stick-like myself, and if she is fat then that probably also means she doesn't play any sports.
it doesn't matter if she's the hottest girl i've ever seen, but if she is not funny, airheaded, sucks in bed (i don't mean literally), has no talents, etc, there's no way i will keep dating her.
and on the other hand maybe there's a girl i only find slightly attractive in looks, if i come to realize that wow, she is f'in cool as hell then my desire to go out with her will go up a lot, more so than if i just thought she was really hot.
i will admit, unfortunately, that fat is one thing that is very hard for me to get by. main reasons being i'm stick-like myself, and if she is fat then that probably also means she doesn't play any sports.