Oh, I get it. The gym was 68 degrees instead of your preferred 72. NOW the story makes sense. You're adding detail to the part of the story that SHOULD remain vague...

Important part of the story: What did she say?

Less important: Her major.

 

So, my assumption is this:

1. You've ****ed this girl before.
2. She gives you all her notes and books, and probably expects something in return.
3. You've never clearly let her know what the boundaries are.


Not sure it's her fault.

 

Hmm... I guess people want specifics of girls causing problems with the SO. Its not really that hard to understand, unless you've Never had friends that are girls before. Or maybe I'm the lone one out on this one, which I'm sure can't be true. With one girl, I convince the SO that one of my friends heather is no problem. eventually me and SO are hanging out late at night and heather texts sayin she wants someone to sleep with her bc its cold and she wants a massage. I blow it off, another time she calls and leaves a voicemail. another time she leaves facebook stuff on my wall. These are all little things that cause problems. And different girls do different things, I dont want to unnecessarily cut people off, bc sometimes it gets ****ing boring being in a town w/out hanging out with the people your used to being with, but they can cause problems.

 

lol. It was too cold to run to the gym. I live right by it. cold sometimes makes me lazy.

 

hey now, no assumptions

 

It's pretty simple. Stop associating with people like Heather, or continue living with the consequences. I have plenty of close female friends and none of them do shit like this.

 

A-ha. Now your story is clear. What's unclear is why you choose to have an 'SO' when you so clearly want to play the field. I have plenty of girl friends (friends that are girls), and have never had an issue such as this.

Want less 'drama'? Drop the long distance relationship and enjoy what the locals appear to be willing to offer. Just my $.02.

 

This is why you shouldn't have a "SO" at 23. Bang everything that moves, or don't; either way, stick to your own gameplan.

Lack of boundaries on your part = chicks doing everything to find out what the boundaries are.

BTW, the more clear you make the boundaries, the more in charge you are, and the more women go completely crazy which often equals good boom boom.

 

How do you really feel about your SO? If you really love her and you want to keep your female friends around you need to set the boundaries, turn the situation around to them...how would they feel if they were with you and saw messages like that left on your phone or whatever. Demand the respect for your relationship. If you don't really care about your relationship with the SO then tear some a$$ and don't bitch about it.

 

you think I'm saying that bc I want to **** these girls, but its not that. I'm saying its boring having a girl in a different city & saying 'no' to everyone else to hang out. Or if you do hang out, you've got to be the one who doesn't DO anything. Why go to the club if you're not with a girl or taking one home, seriously. So, what would be convenient is having the couple friends that are girls and being able to let them call or stop by every Once in a while and everything would be cool. Instead, it's not. Because they (the ones that are left) Do know the boundaries and such, but they say things that stick in my head. For instance, Everyone knows I am not one for long distance relationships, so they pick about that if they can. It's never all good stuff about my girl, its picking bullshit and it's them trying to plant seeds if they can. Aka, anonymous letter left on my dresser obviously from this girl who came over to see my roommate. Yea, its hard being tied down in college. Truth is, I really like the SO I got and want to make it work. I've ****ed up a lot and want to do something right. I've got a conscience, and maybe it's bc I actually like a girl for real now.